Living with Ourselves

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@eudemonism wrote:

@Sophia1

I suppose it's not just about living with ourselves. It's also about living with others. Would you agree? I say this... Because, I figure there's only so long we can be on our own... Before we have to face other people...

Eude

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Yes I agree @eudemonism

learning to live with ourselves...get to know our true selves..accept our differences to others ...spend some time liking our own company..some time enjoying the company of others..accepting their differences..

quite a mouthful..

then when are my responses brief?...

Is this what you were meaning?

Hello @Zoe7

I can certainly understand your fear around Toby running into traffic...

put those thoughts right out of your mind now..He is safe...

Not good about certain person being at hydrotherapy pool...

Noisy crowded pools are not as conducive to therapy either..

as long as the distance there and back is not too far ..sounds like a preferred option..

once warmer months are here again..you might have more options..

a bit cold for the beach!

As far as pain medication ..new pain so beat to take in early days...

when do you see physiotherapist again?

Ps @Zoe7

yes I am still being very hard on myself..

I showed sketches to husband..

He is a tough critic as is good at drawing...painting...

He actually thought they were good..

So I need to get myself fit enough to a attend art group...

take care

An art group is a terrific goal @Sophia1

I have spent time as a water baby but its far too cold for me atm. However I think I am inspired by you all to get back on my rehab horse and focus on it seriously again. I had to give it a break and do music as I thought I would become an automaton.

Cheers @Zoe7 @eudemonism @Adge @Shaz51

@Sophia1 Dropping in a hi. Reading along is all I can do at the moment. Warm thoughts.💜💕💛

@Sophia1 Seeing physiotherapist again Tuesday. Only doing pool session once a week at the moment - too much to do it more. I also need to be very careful with money so once a week is all I can afford right now.

Glad you showed your drawings to your husband and he though they were good Getting yourself fit enough to attend art groupagain is something to work towards @Sophia1 and that is a really positive goal to have

Hi @Appleblossom I never used to be a water baby when I was younger but love it now - could spend all day in the water if it was warm enough!

Hi @Maggie always lovely to see you even if it is just for a moment Hon

@Sophia1

I figure it's more about living with others than living with ourselves... Meaning, it's other people who define us... It's other people who make our lives worth living... It's other people who hold up the scoreboard about our existences... It's other people who pass judgement on us... It's other people who have got us into our circumstances...

Eude

Hello @Maggie

Thank you for your response...this in itself takes ups so much energy on days when a person has little and dwindling motivation...

Reading through quite a few posts is also tiring...I find sometimes I get to the second or third and forgotten what was said in the former...

Staying in the background is a way of self caring as in real life I withdraw....I know that you are very self aware and know all of this...

I just am hoping to reassure you that I understand and expect no more of you....

I have been feeling the same at times over the last number of weeks...just knowing that the forums are still here in the background has a safety net aspect for me....I think that this is the case for others who stay in the background at times as well...

reading along is still away of feeling a part of the conversations...

ps I wrote a lengthier reply and then thought that perhaps you are not up to reading my essays at present...

let me know how you are progressing...whether or not you would prefer a brief response as an acknowledgement...or words from my rambling mind to read and distract...

sending you warm thoughts...some sunshine and hoping that you have a little spot in the garden that you can visit and feel a connection....

Hello @eudemonism

My husband and I often have discussions where our opinions differ.....we continue to talk...listening to each other...then sometimes wording our opinions differently for the other to see our own point of view from a different aspect...sometimes one of us will like the other's perspective and continue to talk along that line.....at other times...neither of us agree with each other....at this stage we agree to disagree...

this is a very tricky concept for some people...as they feel that their opinion is the "right answer"...they have to have the last world...

For me this is a form of debating....I love debating....I have only met a handful of people who think along these lines...

most people label the discussion as being opinionated...they are not listening intently...

This leads me to your response: I see "living with ourselves" from a different perspective....

It is good that you have voiced your thoughts...your opinion...mine being different ...does not make either of us right or wrong...just looking at the meaning differently...

Have you ever had conversations where you have voiced "let's agree to disagree on this point"...sensing that another or others are starting to feel upset/undermined?

Hello @Zoe7

Yes the cost of the pool sessions is expensive....For me I justify it as my only form of entertainment cost really...I don't have coffee and cake or lunch out with friends very often at all...I do not belong to any sports clubs where membership fees are paid...I do not go to the pictures very often unless younger son wants me to go with him...which we do sometimes...I used to buy a lot of books...now I mostly use the library...

I love the water too and the beach...Perhaps I should have been a fish...a dolphin I think...

@Appleblossom

I will not be returning to the art group laugh...I have not got there yet...have lived here for eight and a half years and only just found out where it is...So once am more active ...I shall strive to push myself out of the house....obstacle number one...check it out...

when I spoke about it again to this friend at the pool...she mentioned that people come and go at different times...I like that idea ...as if I feel anxious at first I will not feel as conspicuous leaving...