Living with Ourselves

Wishing you the very best @Sophia1

I wished we had more contact here

Tske care lovely ♥️
big hugs Xxxooo

hi @Bunniekins

Big hugs to you too ♥️Xxoo

Hello @Sophia1

Lovely to see you here, even if, only for a little while.

Wishing for you and the people special to you, a pleasant and peaceful Christmas.

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX

@Sophia1

Good to see you pop in. Understand the need to place boundaries, but it is heart breaking when siblings are distanced like that.

Maybe I should have been more distant, but I did what I did. My daughter and son now have a similar dynamic than you described. She is going to Canberra these days. Moved on from state politics. Good for her. Still its sad.Feeling short of words about my end. Son has a team meeting soon.in my loungeroom with a pdoc and clinical psycbologist, but he has low expectations. At least he has been tidying up and playing piano.

Look after yourself. Always good to 'see' you.

Apple

In my heart and thoughts @Sophia1 and yes for many of us, this time of year, the struggle is real. My girl, I'm told is responding well to latest rounds of ECTs and will stay in hospital until at least Feb so a huge exhale here, hearing of her progress and knowing she is safe and being well cared for. Christmas will be a quiet affair for my husband and myself and for that I'm grateful. No having to fake it which is just plain hard work. I wish for you and yours, peace, contentment and calm. Take good care of yourself. Think of you when I'm in the garden. Love and hugs xxx

My heart and thoughts go out to you dear @Sophia1 I too am really struggling so all I have to give is some cyber hugs and a whole lot of love 💖💖💖💖💖

Hi @Sophia1 👋

Sorry to read that you're struggling so much. I understand about not being able to contribute much on the forums. I feel the same.
Yet you encourage people all the time.
You sound like such a kind, caring and understanding person and I would love to have a cuppa and chat with you in real life.

Love and hugs to you. 🤗💖

Hi to everyone else here. 👋❤️

Hello dear @Bunniekins

I have read snippets and know that you have been really struggling of late.

That hurts me to read this as I know you have been dealing with health of your own as well as your son for some time now.

There are no words that match are there my dear Pea....

I like so many others who love you without even meeting you.,...

want to support you in the best way that we can.

Some of us are only able to visit briefly as needing to take self care and this I know you already understand..

I sincerely hope that you are and will do the same for yourself..

It is not easy I know only too well...

Mandatory though..

We need to still be present in their lives in what ever way we can don't we..

I think I read somewhere...not sure...that you understood and related to my latest

circumstances of letting person go as well as younger sibling needing independence..

So hard to do when holding them so close for such a long period of time attempting to protect them from babies through all the stages of reaching adult life and then ongoing due to society not understanding their needs.

You are such a brilliant mum dear Pea and always will be.

It is so hard to let go and recognise that they are adults no different to others in that aspect.

Yes they have special needs at the same time they are adults..

Oh goodness so very hard.. yet vital...

They do have to experience life going on.

My member has already sadly experienced life on own and all of the horrors that can bring from being homeless...

Member now lying low and recuperating...

Not currently in contact with me which is hard.

However most times when I do receive calls he is not well and I believe needing his mum...

Of course I listen ....as I have said before some calls can last at least an hour and delusions and psychosis are present.. Terrified I believe and without realising or saying needing a listening ear...

Not much to ask for is it?

What is wrong with the government of this country when they cannot provide space for this withing our health system??

Dear pea..

Our own health is so important...Both of us have had setbacks.

Now is the time where we and I believe you also have started to allow our family members to move forward independently as young adults....

We will always be their mums...

Our love is always unconditional and nothing will change that..

We have to live our lives also.. Each of us deserves that much..

Letting go ...allowing them to find their own direction where their own instinct takes them..

always in the background for them in whatever way we are able to be..

We are not giving up on them..

We are accepting the fact finally after so very long that we are not enough to help them..

We must let them experience help from others qualified in this area..

The choice is then theirs...No longer ours..

We can though always be their mums....unconditionally loving them...

they are still our children..now grown up..no matter what...our love is still as strong..knowing this I believe that we give them a far greater chance of finding a quality of life...

This is my belief..

Side by side with others...@Appleblossom @Krishna @Anastasia @Grasshopper3

many others also..

do take care Pea..so that you can be there when needed..

sending you love all xxx

Bless you dear pea ...

Will check on you when back online .

As you know taking time out..

❤🧡💛💚💜

Hello all who have supported and or written to me

I am so sorry ...

Nearly 5 am and I must try and grab some sleep

Please take care each and every one of you..

I will write again with more substance during a reasonable hour of the day when I can.

Know that I think of you all though individually and support you silently..

Sophia

@Sophia1You are such a kind person Sophia1. Thank you for your kind and wise words. Love to you always pea

Hugs @Sophia1 , hope you have some good sleep ❤❤