Living with Ourselves

I hope the night is ok for you too @Mazarita - take care

@Sophia1 and @Mazarita leaving these here for both of you

@Zoe7

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@Mazarita @Zoe7 @Determined @eth @eudemonism

Hello @Zoe7

Thank you for offer of listening again..

I am not good at asking for help...I am better at being there for others...

I have been lhis way since being a little girl....standing up for those who didn't stand up for themselves.. Even though I was shy...

So when I hurt I pushed it back down..

easier for me to stay here..

Hello @Mazarita

read your post on worry room..

thought you were in too much pain..

not able to support at moment..

I can talk to you here..

you can talk to me on the rave if that makes sense...

sounds like double dutch

I think that you are offline now

I am just about to log off @Sophia1 - my headache has gotten worse again so I need to be away from the screen.

Before I go I wanted to reply to you though

I completely understand you feeling more comfortable helping others than asking for help yourself. I have been the same since I was a child also - if I am helping someone else it makes me think better of myself. We know we are our own harshest critics and for many of us here that is because we have been very hurt when younger and did not know how to ask for help or been made think that no-one would help us if we did - it is something that we have taken throughout our lives.

I am beginning to ask more when I really need the support and this forum has been the catalyst for that. We do have an amazing community of caring and compassionate people here - with the added bonus that we understand each other.

I am more than happy to be tagged by you anytime @Sophia1 - I know we have shared some fun times over the journey but I am also here for you (when I can be) in the times that you need support - whether that is sticking to this thread or elsewhere - that is up to you.

I do need to log off now but I will read and respond to whatever you have to say tonight when I log on tomorrow - you really do matter to me Hon and I am only too happy to provide whatever support I can to you. Goodnight @Sophia1

Hi @Sophia1, just got your message after 4am here.

Thanks for thinking of me in relation to my 'worry room' post. The post referred to an aspect of my life I have to keep to myself, which troubles me in an ongoing way, has for years now, but which has no answer or remedy really, and is kind of complicated. One of those 'adult' things we have to live with but can't really speak about. The 'worry room' gave me an opportunity to speak about it without speaking about it, if that makes sense. There was some other stuff in the post too but it's okay, I'm not too distressed, not in too much pain. Just somewhat relieved to be able to say some things in that space on the forum. And then walk away from the issues again for a while, as best I can.

I get a lot of support on the forum, it's really okay that you are not in a place to spread yourself and your support too far from home. As you said earlier, you are still in an acute stage of recovery from your surgery. Please, please try not to trouble yourself about how much support you are offering others. It's probably more than you think and, even in the best of circumstances, it's not necessary to be supporting others all the time. Just being here, writing our struggles, may be helping more people than we know.

Hope you are sleeping peacefully as I write this middle of the night note to you. ox