Re: Learning about Relationship Boundaries

No @Happyness I think it would be counter productive to sum up over 30 pages of living breathing struggling and pain.

I am sorry that it is hard to read ...it is at the edge of my learning and maturing ... not sure whether that is your cognitive issue or related to the difficulty of the material.

What in particular did you have difficulty with?

I have just re-read this thread.

It also has some wonderful relaxed and friendly moments... not just struggle.

I am feeling better today and really want to thank everybody who has participated and posted.

Thank you

I have been ruminating over the interactions with the electrician the other day. It was about the lack of clarity I feel with being just polite and being friendly. Also what is a professional or tradie relationship and what goes deeper.

Boundaries.. boundaries.

Also today I had my last Carers Vic appointment with psychologist ... it was good and very helpful .. I will be happy to go back to her when needed ... we left it open.In summing up we could agree we have come along way since sessions started.

This thread started before I saw her ... and I feel the support I have been given on it has been CRUCIAL to our survival.

Yay ... PEER SUPPORT

Today my young vegan friend came and picked up lots of fire wood ... I had a dying wattle cut down and other bits and pieces to make quiet a haul for her ..

We had a flare up while away in January and I finally remember the trigger .. she told me off for not remembering she had a wood fire .. and I stood up for myself, told her not to be arrogant, but couldnt stop and went overboard. It upset my son and was not nice ... maybe we have gotten over it or maybe it will flare up again.

I do hope our relationship doesnt fall apart and she can learn what some of my triggers are and avoid them ... I know I am a bit touchy and so many things can get under my skin. Part of my being a loner is due to not expecting others to cope with my many sore spots ...

women are so often the targets of one's unconscious projections (no matter whether you are male or female),

I think that this have happened to you a LOT in the past..........

You got it @PeppiPatty

If I am OCD ... its about working those out now and not letting them get to me ..

cheers ... hows the Bud?

Its just the way things happen .. but somehow I am always in the way or in the wrong ...

Apple

Hi @Appleblossom

I hope you're doing okay. I sent you a quick email.

I hope the night improved.

Take care.

Hugs @Appleblossom

i hope you are ok tonight and that your neck isnt too sore by time you get home after your day. im glad you were able to speak up for yourself to the gardner. I wish your son's girl would listen a little more about your neck 😞 I hear you and wish that I could help you.

lj

Thank you for your replies @NikNik and @Former-Member

I ended up taking a Vline diesel train into the city and it was much quieter and smoother and calming than the electrical trains.