Tooky History: Clipart but potentially triggering

@Former-Member Suppose I better call it a night too. I think I may have a headache in the morning. Can't thank you enough for your time and advice. It has given me some clarity and validated my feelings. Better look on eBay for those Babushka dolls. Might need to get me a whole crate full.

@soul so which country was he diagnosed in? the USA perhaps?

hahah @soul a crate of them.. yep... I think those ones are only a fraction of the ones I've dealt with to be honest.... .

Anyhow... first you need to establish if he was namipulative... when you feel strong... read some of the Dr Simon stuff... see if it rings true or not. If it does or doesn't you will know one way or the other on that at least.

He got a BP diagnosis in Australia after he was arrested and imprisoned after a serious assault on me. A neighbour who I had never met called the police and he was charged. I didn't file charges against him. After serving time which we appealed and had shortened, he was deported as he wasn't an Australian citizen. That's why we were overseas. I stood by him the whole time. He attempted to get treatment but it was haphazard because of the standard available and his reluctance. The assaults continued and now I have come home for good.

@Former-Member ... Listen to me.. NOBODY nobody would think you are like our partners.... get that out of your head right now. There is NO way, I could have a rational conversation or exchange like this with him. You are 100000 times (literally) more self aware than he is/was, you are caring (he certainly wasn't) you are not seflish in any way shape or form (he was totally self absorbed) he only, ONLY ever thought of himself, you pretty much only think of others.

There is NO way you are anything, remotely, similar to him not with even one photon, let along atom of your body. You are no way, not even close to what he was like. NO WAY!!!! So if you think you could ever be tarred by his brush.. you could NEVER be. Do you get that? you are NOT like my partner was AT ALL!

I do not understand that @soul you need to research.. and find out for yourself if he actually fits the diagnosis.. and start looking at other cluster B options... and decide for yourself. Maybe he is, I don;t know him.. but I suggest you do it because you might find things that help you with it. LIke I said.. start with the manipulative behaviour.. if he doesn't fit that.. then maybe he does have the right diagnosis.

Anyhow.. you go sleeping.. and I hope you can rest. I know your head is probably full of working the good/bad thing out... resovling that.. because that is a very all consuming thing until you resolve it. You take care.. and know it isn't your fault, and there's nothing you could have done. That was on him, not you.

No.... @Former-Member No.. because she was like me ex... and all over the net you will find people who know she is not BPD. Who totally reject it. So no, you are wrong about that. She was exactly like my ex.. you are nothing like that.. you have that very wrong. That isn't right, get that out of your head too, that is wrong. If you looked at it, you would see that for yourself, clearly.

Not at all @Former-Member. No.. not at all. You have that wrong. I don't use that word wrong often, but on that, you are wrong. you are not like that and nobody would suggest it.

@Former-Member see .. see how destructive that stupid label is? See why I hate it. Don't define yourself by a lable. please don't define yourself by a stupid nonsense label. You are not a label. You are you. F$#K the label. It's Bullshiiiite dogpoop. PLEASE.