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@tyme

My anxiety is through the roof

I'm watching letters and numbers

I can't really think logically right now

Hey @avant-garde ,

So so sorry to hear about the anxiety. What would be helpful for you to help you regulate? I'm sensing that reading letters and numbers isn't very helpful at the moment?

Sitting with you.

@tyme

I'm scared of the surgery, I suddenly have a date and it's not far away at all. I'm still shaking and finding it hard to regulate.

I totally hear you @avant-garde

Your feelings are so so so valid.

At this point, what would be most helpful for you on the forums? I'm happy to sit with you. Or if you wanted to brainstorm ideas or ways of coping, that's also okay.

If you just wanted an ear - I'm all ears.

@tyme

I've only met my surgeon once, I need help grounding and planning.

The surgeon said I should be ok to drive after 24 hours, Google said different. I wish I could talk to the surgeon once more before the procedure. It's not like I ever drive far.

Hearing you @avant-garde ,

Is it an option of having someone drive you? I remember you had a friend help you out before and they were so helpful.

Now that you have a date, what sort of things can help you stay grounded?

@tyme

It's general anaesthetic so I'm not allowed to drive for 24 hours

I have someone for afterwards and I have an appointment with my case manager in the morning which I'm sure she will be fine to either drive me there or sit with me if I'm waiting

That's amazing to hear that you have that support @avant-garde

Well done for reaching out. I know it's not easy at the best of times.

As for supporting you to ground yourself, do you have particular strategies that work e.g. some gravitate towards scents, others may gravitate towards having a weighted blanket. Anything in particular you think might work?

@tyme

I'm actually starting to get the answers on letters and numbers which kind of tells me that I'm settling

I might go check the mail to see if there's a letter with more information and a cold shower might help with a shower steamer

Oh that's huge @avant-garde very understandable to feel a lot - and even to feel not much at all, too.

Are the folks doing the surgery aware that you may be needing some extra support along the way?

Sending you soothing vibes hun 💜