Running

@Ru-bee ?

Sorry in my delayed reply @avant-garde, had a bit of busy work I had to attend to but I've been thinking of this and you

I can't imagine the feelings of hurt and betrayal that you must have felt when you heard that the ashes had already been spread. Did you have your own opportunity to say goodbye to your grandmother after this in a way that way meaningful to you?

I'm very glad to hear that you have that poetry book, what a beautiful reminder of that time spent with your loved one.

@Ru-bee the first thing I did when I got my redress was go and purchase a memorial amongst the roses at the cemetery.

My aunt didn't think she deserved to be remembered and so there was no memorial, no nothing.

That's my spot, I'll find a day to visit her soon

redress @avant-garde ?

@tyme

Redress scheme into child institutional sexual abuse

Ahhhh @avant-garde . Thanks for clarifying. It must've been so hard.

At the same time, it is so precious you can celebrate the life of your grandmother despite the ills from other family members.

@tyme

"In her final few weeks she was in and out of hospital, I was in a church that said my grandma would be healed if I just fasted and prayed enough, that God would heal her cancer. But when she died, they said it was my fault, that I didn't fast enough, I didn't pray enough, that if I wanted her alive, I would have done more and she would be here with me. That it was my fault that she's dead. It took me 3 years to stop blaming myself, she was 90 years old with cancer."

I'm glad it happened the way it did, I got to be honest in my grief and have a spot where I don't have to be afraid of being seen by family

Doesn't matter what we do. When it's time, it's time. Look at King Hezekiah? He still eventually died. @avant-garde

I hear the grieving is hard. I personally feel that people who say such things have such earthly, tunnel vision.

@tyme

Quiz tomorrow, had to go to Bunnings to get matches because everywhere I checked didn't have matchboxes with or without matches

There are days when you think "why me? Why'd it happen to me?"

This is one of those days