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@Jynx

I've actually remained emotionally stable today so I'm calling that a win

I'd agree with that assessment @avant-garde - glad to hear it.

@Jynx

I was scared I'd lose her

Aye @avant-garde it's so, so terrifying to have to consider a reality without those we hold dear. It's so okay if it takes some time to shake off that fear. Much softness and gentleness is usually needed 💜

@Jynx

Can... can I get your help with something please?

@avant-garde I mean, you sure can, so long as you're aware I may not be able to respond properly until tomorrow. But you can post whenever you like, maybe others in the community could help too 😊💜

The idea of surgery terrifies me... I need help with planning...

@Jynx

@avant-garde not entirely sure what you mean, as I don't think you're asking me to help plan the surgery... 😂

But maybe we can help you out, I've actually noticed a couple other members talking about upcoming surgeries, so maybe others will be able to relate. What do you envision this plan to look like?

@Jynx

The surgery itself is fine, it's that I've never had a surgery where I haven't lived with my parents.

Every surgery I would be docile and amiable after.

This would be taken advantage of by my dad.

I need to now plan for the emotional onslaught of these memories and triggers, for both before and after surgery.

How am I going to take care of me?

@avant-garde hey hey, how has your Saturday been?

I've never had a major surgery, only had my wisdom teeth out and I just had local for those, so I feel a bit out of my depth on this one 😅 But I am hearing you hun, like you're also worried about the aftermath, having never done this on your own before. That's huge!!

I guess like, how would you usually plan for something like this, like for a trauma anniversary for instance?