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Hey @avant-garde I am guessing this is Delilah? Sounds like things are pretty rough, here if you wanted to chat about it 💜

@Jynx

Yeah it's about Delilah... worth reading the two posts prior to that one

@avant-garde aww hun you absolutely deserve a safe space to call your own!!

When you say Delilah wants to 'take the credit' do you mean for finding you the accom? Cos like.... yikes. Someone's got a fragile ego...

I also hear you on the frustrations about how the media influences us. It can be pretty isolating to have a strong moral code hey. But maybe your 'little sister' having you around means she will be exposed to different ways of thinking, better equipping her to be able to think critically and make up her own mind 😉

@Jynx

The early lies were about her having a contact in government housing... with all these excuses about why it wasn't happening when she said...

She'll make it all about her and how wonderful her connections are... but I did this. I made the spreadsheet. I wrote the emails. I wrote the statements. I found the transitional housing. I did. All she did was lie, steal, manipulate and threaten me!

Obviously being defamed in your community is a very painful experience @avant-garde, and I would never want to understate that. But does it help to remind yourself that no matter what she says, YOU will know the truth? She cannot touch your integrity, no matter what lies she spreads.

It's not that @Jynx

its not about me not having the attention

It's about her using it as a platform

If I had my way I wouldn't have told anyone

I wanted to keep my mouth shut

But I'm a people pleaser and apparently people care about me

And if I didn't need my churches help with moving I wouldn't have told anyone.

I don't want to give her any reason to feel good.

Because then she gains confidence

Then I become part of her narrative

And I don't want her to use my success for her abuse

Thanks for the clarity @avant-garde that makes a lot of sense. It is still isolating to be the only person who has the intuition to see through someone's lies, and sounds like it's been a tricky situation to navigate - trying to get your needs met without sacrificing your values.

@Jynx

While wanting to whack my fellow church members over the head with the DSM 5...

@avant-garde baha this got a chuckle out of me!

But yes it sounds incredibly frustrating - at best.

How long till you move, or know when you can move?

@Jynx

Keys on 22/7

Move on 24/7

Cat before my birthday on 4/8