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The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

Hey Forums Friends,

In my recovery, I've often wondered how to better help myself with negative talk. You know? All those voices that tell you that everything will go wrong. All those voices that tell you that you are wrong? Those voices that are the loudest in the evenings?

Well one skill I've learnt and practised and found effective is:

REFRAMING

Reframing is about looking at an issue in a different and more constructive way.

First, we must consider our own perspective. What exactly IS our perspective?

Then, we consider an alternative, more constructive meaning/interpretation.

By doing this, it helps us connect the dots of our story and allows us to look at the issue from a new, more useful perspective.

Example 1: "I never do anything right!"

Reframe: "I feel I never do anything right, but this isn't necessarily true"

Example 2: "All the people hate me."

Reframe: "I think people hate me but it doesn't mean everyone."

Example 3: "My family are so irritating. I can't stand them."

Reframe: "My family is under a lot of stress right now. I know it must be hard for them."

Please add negative thoughts you've come across and the reframe that can be consider. OR, if you are stuck, let the community help you come up with something. Just let us know the thought. No need to name names. You can generalise your comment.

Tagging those who may be interested @Rockdog @Healandlove @Shiki @Shaz51 @EternalFlower @RoseGeranium @Glisten @Birdofparadise8 @Dimity @NatureLover @Clawde @Captain24

Sorry, not sure who else to tag. Please tag anyone who may be interested.

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@Captain24 wrote:

Thanks for this thread @tyme

It’s definitely something I need to work on. I think I can do it with the smaller thoughts but the really heavy ones, I don’t know how.


I'm wondering if a culmination of small thoughts support you with the bigger thoughts? That is, break up the bigger thoughts?

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@Shaz51 wrote:

Thought -- I can't do anything right

Reframe-- I may do and say the wrong things daily but I know I am still loved


I love this one @Shaz51

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I can see where this so going @tyme. I’m even doing it right now.

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And as I mentioned earlier, I reckon that enough practice of reframing can eventually change the entire narrative/script @Captain24

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@Shaz51 does it make you feel better to share these things with your family and your in-laws? I ask because I am the same with my extended family where i do this to some extent to feel some sort of connection. I have this need for acceptance with my extended family which I think it's a result of an anxious attachment style. But in my case the estrangement from my sister was always there as she always wished to have been an only daughter. She is the eldest. I wish I had other siblings to be close to but it is just us 2.

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You may need to remind me of this thread! @tyme

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@tyme

This is Mr shaz's saying ;

Thought --- "everything happens in threes " so 2 bad things have happened so far , what is going to happen next

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@tyme @Shaz51 @Former-Member

Thought: "I'm a terrible parent".

Reframed: “How do I teach my children to express their feelings, emotions and needs?”

Thought: "My kids never listen"
Reframed: “Drop the word chocolate in a sentence to see if they hear it?” 😆

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Subscribe to it? @Captain24

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Lol @Glisten - Love it! Chocolate or "Do you want a lolly?"

@Shaz51 ,

Reframe: "Yes, problems may feel like they come in threes but so can the things that go right"

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