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The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

Hey Forums Friends,

In my recovery, I've often wondered how to better help myself with negative talk. You know? All those voices that tell you that everything will go wrong. All those voices that tell you that you are wrong? Those voices that are the loudest in the evenings?

Well one skill I've learnt and practised and found effective is:

REFRAMING

Reframing is about looking at an issue in a different and more constructive way.

First, we must consider our own perspective. What exactly IS our perspective?

Then, we consider an alternative, more constructive meaning/interpretation.

By doing this, it helps us connect the dots of our story and allows us to look at the issue from a new, more useful perspective.

Example 1: "I never do anything right!"

Reframe: "I feel I never do anything right, but this isn't necessarily true"

Example 2: "All the people hate me."

Reframe: "I think people hate me but it doesn't mean everyone."

Example 3: "My family are so irritating. I can't stand them."

Reframe: "My family is under a lot of stress right now. I know it must be hard for them."

Please add negative thoughts you've come across and the reframe that can be consider. OR, if you are stuck, let the community help you come up with something. Just let us know the thought. No need to name names. You can generalise your comment.

Tagging those who may be interested @Rockdog @Healandlove @Shiki @Shaz51 @EternalFlower @RoseGeranium @Glisten @Birdofparadise8 @Dimity @NatureLover @Clawde @Captain24

Sorry, not sure who else to tag. Please tag anyone who may be interested.

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Re: The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

@tyme I spent 15 years in politics.

If people think you’re an idiot, then you have the advantage.

Who gives a sh!t what they think.

Hugs

G

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I've gone so far back. How did I let it get so bad so quick

reframe: it's all part of recovery. I have been trying so hard, sometimes you need help and for others to help carry the burden. You are doing your best. You will get back on track soon. Use the admission as a rest. You can do this.

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Thanks for sharing @The-red-centaur . That's such an important reframe.

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It was my fault.

Reframe: No one, NO ONE, asks to be assaulted. It's not your fault never could have been your fault. Forgive yourself red. You survived.

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Why are they so hot and cold?

So False yet so judgemental?

I cannot bear being disrespected.

Why can't they just respect me?

Reframe

Hot and cold because they are struggling with their own inner selves.

False and judgemental because they fear

They need to respect themselves first to understand what respect is.

There is a saying that I cannot remember.

Part of it is :

I cannot force someone to respect me.

I can walk away from those who choose not to respect me.

Sounds like common sense.

Hard to do with family who play games and are manipulative.

Sorry is this meant to be brief?

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Please ignore my previous reply

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