Socialising for Beginners

Could have screamed a few times @tonys

Still could. Few details to sort yet. Think next ph well def not Samsung go back to iPhone or try Motorola or nokia etc

@tonys We will see ...

I did speak direct without diplomacy yesterday in the socialising. Think it is more about position and historically being very powerless and adapting to that, and now have a bit more agency and finally learning to swing my weight around ... a little .... curious how it unfolds.

@Appleblossom I suspect diplomacy is the art of wielding power with subtlety. Having very little heft and little sense of agency the best I can offer is authenticity tempered with as much compassion as I can muster.

Agency, love that word. its going on the white board. @Appleblossom . t m b 1

@TAB an I phone . . mate, Thats a limo, If you have the bucks, dreamed about one once

closet ive ever got to one. then I woke up to wet sheets. . . Hope some luck comes your way tab, g/nite to all the music lovers, @Bunniekins @Appleblossom

@StuF @Dimity and everyone

Have a great weekend. tonys mb 1

Samsung is infuriating as phone. Software is terrible.

Ok hardware too

Think this will become new 'spare' and get iPhone 6 to 12 depending on cost etc

This is big. Heavy . Needs 2 hands. To hold and to text,.

Its horrible to type on etc. When in email find myself deleting things when just trying to tap on them. Yet it promises to be Even more sensitive.

Not so sure why 'less spastic' is not an option.

. Meant a very old poss recon iPhone @tonys was using SE classic last had 3 in a row lol

@Dimity Your definition is probably true. My use of the word may be inaccurate. My personality is probably more people pleaser, cos never in positions of power to wield it subtly or not. Though mother used me as little "diplomat" to win over Human Services to try and get her other kids back from 'the welfare'. It was impressed on me from 10 yrs on, and I had trip to Sydney once where I was explicitly prepped for that job. She got 2 more back but not the final one.

Last night, I was sitting at table with "new potential friends". Covered grief as another lady mentioned it first, but moved on as we did not want to lower the mood. Made jokes and was a bit silly. Realised that in my circumstances growing up I had rarely been allowed much air time, as someone was always coming down loud and heavy in my personal space. So very used to being cut off, and shamed to my face, that was the way it was. So had a lovely few conversations without pressure to be anything other than 'getting to know you' in a light hearted fashion. Talked about work and CBD and govt and music.

I have truly been round the block, tho, and could hear an accent, which I teased out and came from similar part of the world at a province level, as my mother, so that was interesting. She loved the guessing game too. Also noting cliques formed, people on the make, and a few walls, instead of genuine people.

Enjoyed a little dancing without having to follow set steps. About 15 women my age and more in a circle .... with twist, and rocknroll ... and free form ...

@Bunniekins @StuF @Dimity @TAB @tonys

@Historylover @Kyle1

I guess separating out the roles ... and finally ... not obvious charity child. Can buy me own ticket. Wear half decent clothes .... getting that delicate balance right was a topic of discussion and banter ... among some women, but there were enuff men present. In fact I walked into one bar full of men ... to get glasses for water ... they were all drinking something else ..lol

I'm so sorry you've so much and so often felt cut off and shamed @Appleblossom . I didn't mean to contradict or correct you. We all come from different corners and I humbly put my own position as a probable neurodivergent... it was painfully acquired over a working lifetime.

Your social forays sound like a huge adventure.

Impressive @Appleblossom sounds like your brain been wanting to get out and Play. Good Luck

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