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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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Haha love it @TAB! good book too!

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Ha yeah @LeChuck dont upset HAL, he is only trying to do the right thing, getting rid of pesky bugs ... lol @tonys

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was that the Hal 9000. remember him singing daisy to dave, as they pulled the plug. Even by todays standards, a unique film.

The joys of home ownership. Bet you've got a big and growing list. Good to know its all yours I'll bet.

Stay healthy @TAB

@Appleblossom What have you been up to lately. Hope you are on the sunny side of that mountain.

Winter shadows can look daunting to city gardens and dwellers, unless your an oak. I wonder if they

feel a sense of cleansing and renewal they lay golden leaf carpets in the parks. Wisdom definatley rests on the nock of your bow, and you sure make every arrow count. Think you know what I mean.

Do take care good friend, and thanks for your thoughts and... wisdom.. tonys.

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ohh I didnt get Daisy also thought was 2000 ha ha @tonys kubrick can be brilliant, well he is. FMJ is real re basic training, ok with allowances for styles between US and @ Tab in australia , but may have been a few loaded weapons around near the end.things got a bit weird.

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Been using garden shears and secateurs on jasmine at back fence. A real sleeping beauty style overgrown job. @tonys I know it could be more efficient getting a hedge trimmer but not sure it would be good for my neck and therefore more a hassle thn a help.

Really appreciated you ...

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Thankyou @Appleblossom . Mate, I'm with you on mechanized gardening. Sometimes placing a machine between us and our botanical, surgical , creative delights, just wouldnt seem right. Like giving a massage with dishwashing gloves. The feel of a quality gardening tool, excising and sculpturing, well

you know what I mean. I'm not sure whether I like the overgrown look, or just cant face. . letting go.

Take care Appleblossom. Look forward to chatting again. tonys mb 1

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