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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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Oh youve been following all that, Its funny hey. as is the panzer joke. you do know its hard to laugh and type. t mb 1

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Ok and wow. will investigate. roughly how much. Took heart meds so nows good time if not too much to ask. . . @Appleblossom t mb1

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@Appleblossom only just got to watch link. Handy , plus lots more to follow up on there. So

do you play guitar. . .? seem to know your stuff. Hope you are happy and well,

and thanks mate. Happy trails tonys m b 1

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Not played a lot of guitar. @tonys here and there. Guess it can work on a range of instruments even tho it was designed for geetah.

I know lots of stuff but still lousy at socialising ... ha ha

Gonna try again today, after Senior Exercise.

Think I gotta put me mojo on.

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https://youtu.be/Hz5jXwOXgKQ

@Appleblossom 😊 @tonys

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ha ha

Thanks @TAB

Was gonna play me some Waldstein this morning, but son was playing Bach. Thought that was enuff live music for one house. I certainly did not intend for us to be caught in a classical music loop...

The wonder of being able to read the lyrics. I often did not catch them when young ... people would refer to stuff... most of it over my head ...

so its tell Tchaikovsky the news ... learnt a new thing today, already...

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@Appleblossom I suspect Its not that your bad at socializing, You, just like it the way you like it...

when large parts of your life have been stolen, specially, childhood, well I wont go there,

I do know it makes you live your waking hours a little differently, in your twilight years of freedom,

What I really wanted to say, was you suffer a fool badly, . . . . but then you yap with me now and then, . . . . Oh but then thats diplomacy, . . . No No hang on... you .. diplomatic . . Naaaw

See mate . when it comes to socializing, I'm more pathetic than you.

forgive me, just having fun. Take care, enjoy your evening... tonys m b1

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Hi @TAB , brought a tune to the sos beginers thread. well done.

Mate , hope your day, and your new phone. all came together. cheers buddy. tonys mb1

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Took me hours over day to get ph going @tonys

Did it with modem and other ph in carpark it said it was finished so I went home. It still took hours-. Anyhoo

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Oh g day @TAB . slept. woke for twinkle plus check up on eternal flower. caught you just in time, So you survived day, that always helps. and you didn't smash phones. double word score. so I will be checking tomorrow night to hear full story. and finger crossed your winning.

You dont get reception. . . . . I don't get songs.. Thats just not cricket.

Bookkeeper and me have been enjoying your Mr Ed, tab . @Bunniekins likes him too.

see, . . . Its not just me.

Good nite @TAB @StuF @Bunniekins @Dimity @Appleblossom .

Happy dreams

Tonys mb1

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