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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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@Appleblossom just sent you a post. hot tip. try using d smiths full name. see what the machine does. t m b 1

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Ha ha @tonys

re Aussie retailer

Yep, but I am well trained in the workaround , prob cos of all the early tek stuff ...lol

so I just ran the words together to beat the algorithm. I figure if I am intentionally respectful, that comes across in my posts and sometimes I might actually know more than the computer lol ... I do not get bothered about its limitations ... just calmly ... work around til it works!

I understand why Sane has set it up that way, cos many peep do not care ... I used to email and discuss it with mods etc, but I also do not want to waste their time on 'puta hiccups. ..'

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valve amps beautiful old tek ... @tonys

No longer have my old amp.

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 Prinzessin Viktoria Louise von Preussen , great granddaughter of Queen Victoria. Nice horsie hey @tonys

 https://youtu.be/d3Y3-p11yNM

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@Appleblossom I love it, small mind, I know. but makes me laugh, t mb 1

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I'll agree with you having a laugh to cheer up ... met too @tonys

Had many a chuckle about all those confusions about words and double meanings and which meaning ... and how to avoid giving offence ...

Wont agree with the small mind. Its been great having you onboard. Great you are getting more puta savvy.

I am ancient and justified and I can use babytalk about putas ... bought some pewter goblets at the opshop... maybe they are no longer safe to drink from ...???

Not everything old is safe or good ...

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Haha @tonys could have said Richard Smith like Richard Cranium @Appleblossom lol

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@Appleblossom Yes very pure. Have a NAD amp as well but its just not quite as sweet.

But i like what you said about good intentions. I think the overall flavour shows the hearts intent. and cant always expect recipient to be in same happy mood, but we just give whats in our pockets. Bet your busy, but thanks again, for info and cheer. tonys m b 1

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Yes nice horsie @TAB

all that intermarriage and they could not stop fighting ... so wot else can we do ...

we gotta larf about it. @tonys

Met a gorgeous german who was working in UK but could talk some nederlandse mit me. Now I am all mixed up ...

These are not that expensive any more either ... relatively speaking ...

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@Appleblossom Use goblet. . . if you have strange dreams. . . continue using.

have a great nite mate.. thankyou tonys...

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