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Socialising for Beginners

Socialising for Beginners

Thanks for the encouragement @Jynx
I put it in the Looking After Ourselves section as I believe the forums social spaces do a good job, of allowing the online community to get together in various social ways. I am more interested in working out or working through real life socialising experiences. Where we do not have the protections offered by anonymous online interactions.
Socialising for grown ups who have been isolated and are trying to re-enter general community groups or just trying to meet people is no easy feat. Its more difficult than for children and puppies as we usually have a lot more baggage, whatever that may mean.
From the online dictionary for a start:
verb: socialise
1.
participate in social activities; mix socially with others.
"guests can socialize in a real holiday atmosphere"
2.
make (someone) behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.
"newcomers are socialized into orthodox ways"
Similar words:
interact
converse
be sociable
mix
mingle
get together
meet
Seems to require more than simple social skills training.
I started one therapeutic relationship with that as my main goal. I knew I had limits and was willing to learn, but she was not a great a teacher and eventually admitted it was not her strength. I have accepted that I am relatively introverted and there are advantages and safety with that, but also the yearning for human connection persists within me. So I do not really want to keep myself to myself. This forum has been a wonderful opportunity for me to try different things and meet people.

Just tagging a few who I feel may be interested, but this discussion is open ...

@Dimity @Historylover @Shaz51 @Owlunar @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope

@MDT @StuF @TAB @tonys

What do you think?

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Oh @Bunniekins @ I have tried to broaden the musical fare over there. Its hard work and i do not need to assert my music tastes. I am into those styles@Dimity mentioned as well as a little rock. I laugh inside that its called Everything music. Its fine not an argument i am interested in.

Hey @tonys and all. This is first msg from my mobile device.... always learning

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Hey @Appleblossom Hope you are having a well earned, fun weekend. I was hoping now and then you would put some of youre classical bouquets in' that thread'. Just to make that squeaky sound of, people shifting uncomfortably in there in their chairs , I'll suport em. . .

Yes, I know. . . you are too. . polite. and I'm just funning .

Well done on phone, had a repeater installed a few weeks back, so I get a little music by the river and the packing shed girls are getting utube on a T V they rigged up to a laptop.. . . Makes me wonder what they are doing working for me, they should be running silicon valley.

The things they get up too. Spins my head. Go have a great time

Travel safe, tonys mb 1

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@tonys Ha ha running silicon valley ... I met an interesting dude in Canberra ... who may be able to help me harness the best in new and old tek to make music in the uber deep range, with an octave shifter .... I am not totally agin smart tek, just not the massive social takeover and over commercialisation of it for the benefit of a few. In the old days I used to know sciencey and tek types who were more interested in 'plowing' their 'fields' than getting hands dirty by money grubbing....

@StuF @Dimity ... and all ...

I had a lovely weekend, and tho I gave myself "low option" of taking this morning's yoga class off, I was up for it. Yay!

Got physio and dindin with son this arvo ... gotta get extra GOOD peanutbutter, cos no store bought sauce is good enuff for my boy's taste buds. Proud mamma bear. Half the dishes got done while I was away, with a promise of more done later ... grateful for all crumbs

cheers Apple

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Hiya @Appleblossom 🙂

Thanks for the tag. Sounds like you are going well?

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O K @Appleblossom thats peaked my interest bigtime As you probly heard, My Hi Fi is the Only thing I have in my place no rehomed from the tip. Its hard to find a subwoofer thats audio output peak curve is In the 10 to 30 hz range. below 20 Hz is inaudible, but that is where you really feel the deep sadness and emotion, in some music, and its the fun stuff that shifts furniture around to. Remember the old Movie, earth quake, Cerwin Vega , Did the sound for that. K L F is meets the specks but If I buy them I'll be living on those flying bugs I mentioned earlier, for the next 6 months, yea yea... gently bently.. But I am really curios

To know what you are doing. And about this fella in Canberra, You know how it is,

One door leads to another.

Anyway, really glad your back, Hope you and your friends left a fun sized tornado trail behind you. and if I see your smiling dial on a wanted poster,. . I'll cash in and buy my

sub woofer. . . removes tongue from cheek. . tonys m b 1

Oh , thanks for all those supports,

Its not hard to see I'm way out off my

depth, social worker, 101, so cheers

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@tonys

ha ha

I got son studio monitors cos figured he was missing out on quality sound with all the new rubbish around. I already had 12 inch subwoofer when met his father, with tiny amp made from dicksmith kit. Looked homemade but sounded good.

smaller subwoofers but well made ... and good enuff ...

guitar shifters .... can be fine for both digital and acoustic signals according to guy I met and his sound sure seemed to match his word...cant give too much info as might be identifiable.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHh1LfoeypM

How low can you go??

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re all the hurtz in the world ... at my last audio check they offered me hearing aids.... maybe my ears are not as good as they used to be ... have you ever been in those boxes??

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KLM is a plane co

The BFG a kids book

@tonys

KLF is prob a bit poppy for me ... am already Ancient and justified ...

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I thought crossovers determined what frequency went to which speaker 🔈 🔈 Radio Shackers lol I bought their book on speaker design but never got around to building any. I had marantz, wharfedale etc beautiful onkyo amp that weighed a tonne.. never anything that was really fit for purpose though. Look out house. Might turn a room into a speaker box lol.. been on headphones and $150 mini stereos wayy too long. Yes hearing dropping off last 5 years lots hammers grinders engines at work i came to dread hearing tests. @tonys @Appleblossom

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@StuF @tonys @TAB @Dimity

Rules of physics do apply ...

hey they reckon I had a decent subwoofer size ... not too boomy ...

https://www.svsound.com/blogs/subwoofer-setup-and-tuning/strengths-and-pitfalls-of-big-subwoofer-drivers#:~:text=Low%20frequency%20extension%20and%20sound,than%20a%20smaller%20subwoofer%20driver.

Must be Blowing hot air ... edited

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well thats cool @Appleblossom If its the actual brand 'monitor' then we have the same speakers. I have the golds but all the monitor brands got great reviews. will check those links out when forums burns down to simmer later tonight, and thankyou so much for getting back to me with all of that. And yes they don't need to be big. Its about quality and taking the pressure of the mid range monitors.

My amp is a phase linear valve amp. They don't make them anymore.

Yes dic smith had some good stuff, and really good idea's Bet it sounds like crystal .. Anyway

another thing I'm "grateful ' for, your help hey. . . cheers @Appleblossom

Wanna hear something really funny, It rejected this post first go because i used mr smiths first name. Maybe I should have sent a pic. Oh but that wouldn't go well either.

ha ha he he.. . !

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