Life after hospital

Hi @pip

it's interesting you say that he has OCD. Because that is what my therapist said he has. My hubby is so damn pedantic about the stuff in the fridge, things not in the proper place. Same as the pantry.

Yes he needs to understand and realise what he has and ask for help.

It is not easy. He is goiong through a hard time this year especially with his mum in aged care with dementia. it is very hard.

Hi @BlueBay

I have read the thread and people here are making good suggestions - I can't add much - but agree- I think your husband has OCD and if he thinks he doesn't have a problem - well- my reaction is "HA!"

His fussing is not helping your right now - and perhaps you could explain to your son that you are having blood pressure problems and that this can be serious if not monitored and - sigh - yes - it would be easier to have a broken leg with a plaster cast and crutches - people would be sending cards and even flowers - it's socially acceptable to have something physically wrong

One reason I am divorced is that my ex-husband drove me crackers with trivial things - eg - he would get a headache and sit around moaning and whining and refuse to take a headache tablet - and I would YELL - "Take a tablet and I will care - otherwise shuddup!!!"

I am sure we all get the picture - and you are the fragile one right now and you don't need someone poking around in your pantry -

But tell on - I would think venting here would help - it certainly helps me to let it out

We care about you a lot here

Decadian

Hi @Decadian @Faith-and-Hope @utopia @Kurra @Shaz51 @NikNik

I've decided today to go back to my personal trainer for a fortnightly session. Can't afford weekly but i can try to go once a fortnight.

He is so good with me, he knows of my issues and really pushes me to the max. And if i have a meltdown he stops and just listens and then we start again.

he praises me and we talk while I workout. He is so good to me. I can't wait to start again on Monday.

I need to do something for myself and although i do enjoy knitting and colouring and walking i think i need some motivation, some push and i know this guy will do that.

Also reg. new therapist - i have decided to go back to a clinical psychologist who i saw about 3 yrs ago for EMDR. He was really good and has experience with BPD. I have asked his receptionist to put me on a waiting list for any appt i can get.

I didn't want to see someone completely new as i know i would have to start again and re-tell my whole story again. at the moment i am too vulnerable, emotional etc to start again.

going for a walk soon with my son; might go for a long walk today. need to clear my foggy and emotional negative head.

chat later. 🙂

Ah @BlueBay

Here's the post I read yesterday I think - about your getting back to your personal trainer - this sounds like a brilliant idea

In fact - it comes across to me that you do know what is best for you - and somehow this gets lost in the story - about the words getting in the way - and you know this guy and you already have an agenda - and this is good to start with - having a idea of what you want with the time you spend with him

And we all need a bit of a shove at times -

Also - I question your comment about your having an emotional negative head - that might be the truth - but to me it rather is that you have an emotionally fragile psyche - and you feel very delicate at times and it takes very little to shove you out of alignment - I really understand that

And in the spring - ah yes - in the evenings it is wonderful to take a walk after sunset on spring evenings - or I will when my sinuses have cleared - there are three planets in the evening sky this spring - I like looking at them

And the fog in our mind can clear in the fresh air

You are always in my thoughts

Decadian

Hi @Decadian@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@Kurra

This morning hubby and I went for a 3km walk down to the beach and grab a coffee. On our way home hubby decided he had to stop at the toilets, so we walked into our shopping hub. He walks in and out comes my uncle. I came out of the supermarket and saw him too. I haven't seen him or my aunty for a few months when they happen to come into the pharmacy. But before that i haven't seen them for many, many years.

So he asked us to join them at the cafe for a coffee. It was so nice to sit and chat to them both. I have always got along with them as I feel they are of 'my generation' even though they are older. They are not of the same generation as my parents. My uncle is my dad's younger brother.

We started talking about my parents and my aunty said that my mum has always been strange even towards them. all of a sudden years ago my mum stopped calling and visitng them for no real reason. They said they feel so sorry for my dad as he is stuck in her life of a domineering and controlling wife.

She told me that my dad was a really strong, intelligent and good looking young man. She said that even my grandma (dad's mum) couldn't believe how controlling my mum was.

We chatted for about an hour, they asked about our kids and what they were up to. We talked about my cousins, one lives in perth and the other in Singapore.

They have a holiday house down where we live, so we will be seeing more of them in summer.

It was a nice, surprise and pleasant time we had this morning.

Did some weeding just now and getting chagned to go for another walk and drink with a close friend. It is such a beautiful day.

hope everyone is having a nice Saturday. xxoo

Oh boy @BlueBay

I more than just like that - I love it - it's totally fantastic

Aha - your mother is so much like mine was - ah dear - totally unaware of how far they can damage people - change lived

How great you just happened to run into them like that - and how great to be able to see them through the summer

This is the best news ever - yes - it is a lovely day

Decadian