Life after hospital

Hi @BlueBay

I'm sorry I haven't been in touch - I had trouble getting into my mail and Face Book for about 24 hours - give or take - just one of those things

Reading all the suggestions people are giving each other - not just to you - but it's like passing around the ideas - and they are good - but I have a strong feeling you have said what you need to do and that's for you - better you and your husband - to get away for a few days

You need to

Until people have had inappropriate phonecalls at the wrong hours it is hard to really know how intrusive that is - it was my son who would ring in the middle of the night - and I guess the workers at the Juvenile Justice Centre were desperate for me to come and settle him down - but there are times when we have to put ourselves first - and for all our best intentions we can't be there for people at midnight -

I know my mother was overwhelmed with guilt when she put her mother into a nursing home - but the old lady was dying - and there was nothing else to do - I remember the circumstances well -

Maybe life is like a patchwork quilt at times - eg - an American Quilt - made from old clothing etc - with memories attached - and it all tells a story

And to me right now it seems that your story needs time for you and your husband to have some time alone to work things out with each other. You are saying you want to run away - but hey - let's plan it - so everyone is one the same page and knows what's happening

All the other things - what I do - play the piano, colour-in, write, play computer games, watch movies and read - of course my docos - these are wonderful - but then the sky is in danger of falling and none of these work anymore

So my suggestion is to take time out - your MIL will still be there when you are back - and so will your job and your children and your house and the bills etc etc etc - but it's spring

You have been through the wringer - and the washing machine - and whatever - really hard work - and you are still going through it all somehow

I haven't written much over a couple of days - but I have been thinking of you

Decadian

Hi @utopia @BlueBay 🌷💜

I've had a few technical hitches with the Sane site on my iPad tonight, so it's taken a bit longer to get through replies on the threads .... but getting there .... I expect it will be affecting others too and get corrected soon.

My D3 is getting through the hoops p, one at a time .... still sooo frustrating .... buts she's getting there. It feels like it's going to happen.

I hope you are feeling better soon @utopia .... that cold sounds really nasty .... have you got something to treat it with .... ? Take care of you ❣

@BlueBay .... did you pick up my reply on Friday Feast ? I'm thinking your neck muscles might be really tense with all this stress, and maybe perpetuating those headaches .... ?

I use Fisiocrem o tight neck muscles .... but a heat pack might help ... or those peppermint and lavender headache sticks with the roller tops ....

I hope you sleep well tonight. I'm sure the nightmares aren't helping ....

Big hugs 💗🌷💕

Thanks @utopia .... 😊

The school counsellor has been mentoring D3 quite closely ... but she has still had ongoing health issues .... it's a debilitating pattern of get on top of things - trip up with health issues - go down like a ton of bricks - wipe out for 3 to 7 days - pick up the pieces - run to try to catch up - trip up with health issues .... on about a fortnightly basis ....

She is just so over it all !

One week to go of academics, then another week of a TAFE Cert assignment (during school holidays), then it's a wrap with graduation events (fun part).

Soooo nearly there .... and she's starting to believe it can happen ....

D1 is getting married in a few weeks, so my weekends are going to prep around D3 assignments and supporting WH's regimen .... and yeah .... dropping S2 sometimes in there ..... and I'm a full-time carer for my D2 ....

Its full on, but I do find time for me too ... spending a good amount of that on the forums .... cos it's helping to hold me up ....

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Thanks so much @utopia 😊

D3 expressed that thought before she headed off to bed .... that she is starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel .... and believe she can make it ....

I have already dozed off .... better go to bed for real this time ....

G'night .... 💕💤

Hope you feel like you're on the mend tomorrow ....

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Hi @BlueBay

Those dreams are horrible - recurring dreams show there is deep unresolved issues - and no wonder - with the abusers - I wonder if we can really ever overcome that kind of nightmare.

I re-wrote the end of my recurring nightmare a long time ago - I was in a private psyche clinic at the time and the psyschiatrist suggested I re-write the end of the nightmare - that very day - right after my session with him - and he also told the nurses that I might scream during the night -

So I did - and in time learned to wake myself up before the end of the nightmare - maybe you could talk this over with your therapist - a different subject anyway - it might be like a change of environment

Have you had the chance to talk about taking a few days away with your husband so both of you can recharge your batteries - you could go from Friday night and return Sunday night and you don't have to go far - I have a strong feeling that you need this - because you want to run away -

You are in my thoughts

Decadian