Life after hospital

And try to walk every day too @BlueBay .... to burn up the angry energy and release it from your system.

Rest well tonight .... and have some more beautiful dreams ....

Talk again tomorrow 💕

@Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 @utopia @Decadian

I just did a 1 1/2 hour walk up and down hills on a national park. one side of the park was the beautiful calm bay and the other side was the rough ocean. amazing. i power walked through my anger on my own and then had the vision of the beautiful baby which felt so nice.

it was about 7,000 steps and about 6km!!!! I didn't want to go but did in the end. My family came and it was my son's idea. he really pushes me to the limit. everyone was casually except for me and him we were power walking and trying to keep up with each other. yes i am a bit competitive. lol

That sounds fantastic @BlueBay 😀

So pleased for you ❣

Well done 🌷💗💕🌷💗💕

that sounds wonderful @BlueBay xx

Hi guys

I'm feeling okay tonight except for my legs and back. i have a feeling i will be quite sore tomorrow

Cooking dinner, hubby is helping.

I need some advice, I want to try to contact one of my aunties. Two years ago when my grandma passed away I met all my aunties and uncles again after about 20 yrs of not seeing any of them. But one of my aunties said to me "you know I never forgot about you and your family, you were always in my thoughts". We cried and hugged. she told me she would like to stay in touch with my mum and us but my mum will never contact her siblings. and now i have lost her number.

She gave me her phone number but i have lost it. I know that she had worked at a police station as an admin officer for quite a long time, and the station is not far from where I live. Her husband is a current detective/undercover police officer and works at the same station. Trouble is i can't remember her surname when she married.

Does anyone have suggestions of how I could possibly find them. I want to contact her to reconnect and tell her about her brother (one of the abusers) and what happened. do you think if i went to the police station they would be able to help or if they knew him they could possibly give him my number for my aunty.

@Kurra

oh yeah i never thought about the terrorism and that they may not help. But i will give it a go. I'll let you know how I go.

Hi @BlueBay

If your auntie gave you her phone number I am sure she will be glad to hear from you - and that would be wonderful

Since 9/11 things have changed a lot - security is very tight now - so you will need documents to prove who you are - eg - your original birth certificate or extract of entry, your marriage certificate, passport or photographic equivalent (drivers' licence or Keypass) - anything at all to prove you are who you say you are. If you have your documents stored in a bank deed package and you have photocopies they could be just as useful

Personally - unless it would help your aunt in some way - I would wait and see the way the wind blows before you mention any thing about the abuse you suffered. I know you suffered terribly - and it has left you wounded - and I really understand this - but if you want contact with your aunt - then wait and see what happens.

I tried to tell a family member what my mother did to me (violent physical abuse) when I was an young child - it did not go down well and for a time we did not get along very easily - I am surprised at times how people would rather believe a lie rather than the truth - it may be your aunt does know something - but give it time.

It is certainly worth looking her up - and it can't do any harm

I bet you will be sore tomorrow - but good on you for that walk - what a walk - I guess you went down the Peninsula - how I would like to go down there again - and walk that far

I hope tomorrow is a good day for you and that you have success in finding your aunt

Something else to think about - there is a TV programme coming up where they are trying to put people who have lost contact with each other back together again. I will watch for the ad again and let you know - it may be too late for this series but if it works you can try again if your search is not getting anywhere

All the best with that

Decadian

Hi @BlueBay

Black and white thinking - ho hum - maybe it's better than 50 shades of grey - I don't know

But to me your psyche contradicted himself because NEVER is a BLACK AND WHITE WORD

Never is a final word - I remember learning this at primary school - then I realised there were a lot of words in that group - well - it took years - but UNIQUE is one of them and your situation in the world is unique

It may be that you will never speak to your father again - but this is his choice for now - my father did want to talk to me - but after he died the family went back to the old ways and I never had that same chance with my mother - so I do understand - and maybe the world seems to be black and white because never is a black and white word

So although you think your sessions was not a good one - yeah - if you got mad at your psyche and he said it was a good session - then maybe it was - after all - your psyche is in the profession because he chose to be and he's used to it

Remember that baby - your future is in that dream - there is one thing that is immutable and that is the past - nothing can change it - ever

But the future - wow - that can be anything

Decadian