Sorry that happened @TABI hope it not trick you into thinking I was her.
My ex offered to plant passionfruit in our backyard, but it wasnt with love .. he was cynical & calculating. He probably projected it onto me and I was totally burnt out. I tried to give him affection, family, sex therapy, art therapy ... but it was what it was.
After I left my marriage I took lots of cuttings from the garden and grew them in pots in a little flat with a tiny concrete yard. Then I carted them all ... like a bloomin mug .. to my new place .. I left him and the girls in the family home but we eventually sold and both bought widdle houses. I never wanted a BV in the burbs anyway.
I planted the cuttings daisies, pelargoniums, & bulbs etc out in my garden but eventually split & divided them out into my court. Bought the apple trees years after I separated. One neighbour said I was mad as I planted the 2nd one on council property. The plants I put in around it had grown up and it wasnt thriving there anyway .. so put it on my land last week ... I was so over all the ... who owns what .. and who takes responsibility for what .. at the moment the Melb Water & the Council are each waiting for the other to do some work .. hmmm .. maybe I have to phone them again ..
It feels like S**t being betrayed when we care .. you seem to be able to be very positive though ..