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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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Hello thanks for thinking of me - i'm probably not your poster girl!
My hubby broke every vow we had, put me into ecruciating debt, other women, & after 3 years of getting him to a psychiatrist I had to go or get more broken. The property settlement was a joke, he claimed he couldn't work for a year due to the new diagnosis but that was not true. At the end of the day a nurse, me - paid the lawyer to go!
I now have an international student staying bringing in tax free $$ to help with the mortgage, have started a styling business so i can afford to go on holidays, am still working full time, dancing x 3 a week instead of going to the gym (its cheaper!), sewing, sailing, doing Sydney to Hobart next year. Have registered with a dating agency cause the online dating looks horrific, besides I could do with letting the bats out (if you know what i mean!). I laugh out loud a lot. I interupted a suicidal collegue which i wouldn't have known how to do or what to do a year before.
The psychologist I took us to is only a phone call away as I progress & find out who I am now & venture out.
I will always have a special place in my heart for him. love is unconditonal, the relationship however is conditional.
hugs to all
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Former-Member, @Former-Member
I am not part of a carer support group , but I have done a lot of research over the years
yes it makes it tricky when your Husband has cancelled all help and he decides to take half the meds sometimes and back on the whole meds , so it is a lot of ups and downs
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
hello @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @Former-Member
hello and hugs @Former-Member , @Former-Member 
@zipper, @colouredlights
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Tootsy , @cheersquad , soo good to see you xx
@Violet , @colouredlights , @Former-Member
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TootsySenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Here for you @Tootsy if you like to talk about it ❤
@moderator , @Former-Member , @tyme , @Paperdaisy
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Unknown userMember
Hey @Tootsy
I'm so sorry to see things are so hard today, I'm really glad that you are starting to reach out here as we do have a warm community including members that I imagine can relate to much that you're going through.
If things today do get really hard and you feel it might be a good idea to reach out for some extra support, please always feel free to give the SANE Support Centre a try. We have a team of counsellors and peer workers that can help sit with you and process what you are going through, as no one is expected to sit with all of it on their own. Do take care today 💚
and thanks for the tag @Shaz51 😊
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Tootsy are you OK my friend , thinking of you since you sent your message
I know with my husband, it is a build-up until he has a breakdown
👋 @Former-Member
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TootsySenior Contributor
Thank you for your support, it means a lot. Today was better thankfully, it’s tiring after a hard night but hopefully the week will get better. This work/life/carer balance does get exhausting.
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