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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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cheersquadSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Well @cheersquad, the sun is shinning here,
we have been out mowing for the morning , came home , had some lunch and now hubby is asleep , and me -- I am sitting down relaxing with a cup of coffee
How about you and your family today , How are you ?
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cheersquadSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
that is great @cheersquad, I will be putting a tick in my diary for today , one day at a time
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Chriscarer, how are you today ??
Hi @cheersquad,how are you today
Welome to the forum
My husband has MI , he has a lot of ups and downs , good days and bad days , Isolation is a big thing as all us carers knows
So let us all share our tips and advice -- @zipper, @Violet,
@Former-Member, @BeHappy, @Former-Member and anyone else that i missed
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Unknown userMember
Hi Shaz51,
Thanks for thinking of me.👍 I have been very busy lately and have not been able to contribute much.
I think that one of the hardest things is to take the focus off the family member with MI and focus on yourself. Especially if you have been in the habit of being alert to the next crisis in your family life. I know from my own experience that I can take that defensive state into other areas. So this affects my ability to relate.
It is hard but I think the balance is to have a good day even if they are not without losing my ability to care.
I am pretty good at the moment.
Cheers.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
I know totally what you mean @Former-Member
It is hard but I think the balance is to have a good day even if they are not without losing my ability to care.-- yes I agree and I will say what good things has happen that day to think postive and cut ou the negative
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colouredlightsNew Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello everyone , I thought i would bring this tread forward after seeing topic tuesday about "should I stay or should I go "
sharing our experiences and tips and hints that can help
@Jane230 @tancate @Smileymj @HongVo @Carer101 @Johnny @SunnyDaisy @Phijoy -- Ut was great seeing you on tuesday night
and a Hello to @colouredlights, @zipper, @cheersquad, @Violet, @Alessandra1992, @NikNik, sorry if I have missed anyones name
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @lucky, @Former-Member, @BeHappy, @Tatsinda 
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