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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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Hi @Violet,
I agree with you that it is helpful to read others stories and know that you are not alone.
My partner suffers depression and I know he has a terrible time sharing space with anyone at these times. It's not so much that he wants to be alone all the time as he is bothered by noise and emotional displays. I need to find another emotional outlet while my partner is depressed.
From a practical point of view if your partners bothered by noise there are noise cancelling headphones which allow the wearer to have a controlled space while the rest of the household continues on normally. This might help you both be in the same space. Life is noisy. My partner can have a meltdown and have to leave the house if I operate the vacuum cleaner. Something I really cannot live without but I try to avoid doing it when he is around.
cheers.
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VioletContributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Violet. My partner suffers depression and does not like a lot of noises , or large crowds or when the kids who are adults come and stay , the headphones are a great Idea .
one way in which we found good, is going to the beach or the creek for something different , to get out of the house , hubby comes too -- he goes for a swim while the others are burning off energy , but i know there is times you just cant do this
hi @Carer101, that is a great idea , and also I do the vacuum cleaner when he is not a home
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello everyone @zipper, @Violet, @Former-Member, @BeHappy, @cheersquad, wondering how everyone is going today ??
Hope all is ok 
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cheersquadSenior Contributor
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cheersquadSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
good point @cheersquad, no ,not yet , it is a bit overdue i think
thankyou , i need to remind myself
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @cheersquad, how are you ??
everyday is one day at a time , how about you
Hello @zipper, @Violet, @Former-Member, @BeHappy, how are you , how is your easter going
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cheersquadSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @cheersquad, I know totally what you mean that is why i have been thinking of you
three social family events over easter long weekend and he is totally had it today
I am being held back in life -- I feel this too , it is hard to stay postive all the time
Have to see what happens tomorrow xx
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