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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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TootsySenior Contributor
I think I’ll try to have an early night and catch up on some sleep 💛🤞
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HealandloveSenior Contributor
@Tootsy I'm so sorry to hear things haven't improved 😔.
I'm glad you are safe. Safety is your priority. Please contact your DV support asap tomorrow.
Abuse is not ok. Sending you hugs and love. You deserve love and care.
🫂🫂🫂
@Shaz51 hi my sister. I hope you are doing well 😘😘😘
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Tootsy 😊
Sitting with you my friend 🧡
Hello @AuntGlow , @Jynx @tyme , @rav3n
Hello my sister @Healandlove
How are you ?
Have been thinking of you lots 💓 and am missing you lots
Hope you are OK, sitting with you and listening xx
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AuntGlowModerator
Okay, please let me know how you go and remember that we are always here for you. @Tootsy
Trauma bonds are so complex... and it sounds like you know what you need to do here to feel safe again. But I know this isn't easy, you're incredibly brave for reaching out tonight.
I hope you get good rest, but please don't hesitate to reach out if you need us. Big hugs. 💛
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TootsySenior Contributor
@AuntGlow @Shaz51 @Healandlove @Jynx
Thank you, its a better day (although at work) but there seems to be a breakthrough and hubs is feeling a bit better 😊 I will still reach out for some help and will set some boundaries to stick too. Thank you for your support 🧡
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AuntGlowModerator
Oh, I am so glad that today feels lighter for you @Tootsy. 🥰
Do you think you and hubby might explore some support together?
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TootsySenior Contributor
@AuntGlow He spoke to his Psychologist today which helped. He is still edgy, he just told me I’m cold hearted and so is my daughter so I’m not sure how to take that especially for what I endure. 😓
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tymeModerator
Heya @Tootsy ! Long time no see! How are you? Life's life, right?
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tymeModerator
@Tootsy wrote:
@Shaz51 @tyme @Jynx @Healandlove Sorry ive been MIA, it’s been a a year of ups and downs thats for sure. I have been classed as being at high risk for DV and I thought it was getting better but it’s not. Im at a loss to help hubs as he turns everything around on me when i say anything. The threats are getting out if hand now
So sorry to hear about this. You deserve all the support you can get hun.
We've missed you. Thank you for remembering us
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AuntGlowModerator
Oh wow, that would have been painful to hear... what do you think you need right now to feel safely connected to him? @Tootsy 💛
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