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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Healandlove
I have felt and have said those things myself which you have written here in your message
I have cried in the shower
Over our married life Mr shaz has taken himself to the hospital 3 times
And because he took himself to hospital means he does not have to agree to ongoing treatment after his stay which I found premature and even if the specialist thinks it would be good for him
@Tootsy , @tyme
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TootsySenior Contributor
@Shaz51 @Healandlove @tyme @Former-Member @@@@Thank you for your support, I honestly don’t think I would have managed without it! Hubs is still not great as you would expect but there is progress in the the right direction, he has spoken to his psychologist this week and he says it went well and the acute team put him onto some other prevention team that has been in touch. They did say is get a call for carers support but nothing yet. I’m doing ok, the weekend has been good and I managed to do some sewing! I’m a bit more emotional though 🤔 I hope you are all having a good day x
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tymeModerator
Hello my dear @Tootsy , how is hubs today?
At the same time, what are you doing to look after yourself?
Thinking of you and your hubby.
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TootsySenior Contributor
Hi @tyme, thank you for checking in, today has been nice! Hubs has been busy in the shed and I’ve done some craft! Slow cooker dinner to come x
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tymeModerator
Calm after the storm @Tootsy !
Hugs. Enjoy your lovely dinner!
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HealandloveSenior Contributor
Oh @Tootsy , that is such encouraging news that your hubby has gone to the psychologist. I completely understand the feelings being emotional. After being in survival mode, the body has to let go. Cry if you feel like it. It really helps me feel better afterwards. Keeping busy yourself with craft is a beautiful form of self care..I love sewing too and when the kids were little I used to make them shorts and dresses. Now I have no time but I keep my supplies and machine for the future. What are you sewing at the moment? I would like to make something for myself one day.
Hobbies like keeping himself busy in the shed is also a wonderful outlet for your husband.
A slow cooked meal sounds amazing! I might make one for tonight.
Sending you hugs 🫂 and love ❤️ xx
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Healandlove , @Tootsy , @tyme
how are you going today xx
having a coffee here ,
husband has gone to bed , not feeling too good he said
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TootsySenior Contributor
Hello @Healandlove @Shaz51 @tyme a good cry would be good sometimes that’s for sure! It’s been an emotional week, but a bit better today as kept busy. I love sewing, mainly for our grandson 🩷 and craft projects. I’m thinking I may have to cut back on my hours with work but I’m not sure they will appreciate it, time will tell. Sending hugs 🥰
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
@Tootsy , I know it is hard , we are self employed and have been cutting back on work due to Mr shaz's mental health
And I have found it was a great choose we did
Sometimes we have to think of our own health then our customers xxx
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tymeModerator
I agree with @Shaz51 - You need to look after yourself first @Tootsy .
How are you and hubby anyway?
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