Wives caring for Husbands

@tyme @I think so, it’s been a very emotional afternoon, I tried being strong, the look in his eyes when I said I called for help will haunt me though. I know I did the right thing as he was suicidal. X

Hugs. We are here for you. Sometimes, it's a cry for help. You did the right thing. @Tootsy Are you there with him?

@tyme @Thank you. No im still at home, I’m not up for the drive tonight. I will go first thing in the morning.

Know that he is safe and hopefully it will give you some respite tonight. Sounds like you need it @Tootsy . A goooood sleep.

I know it is very hard @Tootsy

Try and get some sleep, hugging you my friend ❤️

@tyme

@Tootsy how are you today my friend 🧡

Been thinking 🤔 of you all day , hope you are coping

Sitting with you 💕

@Shaz51 Thank you ☺️ he came home Monday (they don’t seem to keep them in for long) the acute team are visiting this morning so hopefully he gets some help but he’s seen them before and there is no continuous follow up with them. 🤞🤞

Hope he gets the support he needs @Tootsy ❤️

and how are you xx

Hello @Healandlove , how are you today xx

@Tootsy @Shaz51

@Tootsy , I am so sorry you are going through this. You were so brave and calm to be able to call for help for your husband. I am so glad you were safe and hopefully got some rest. How was your husband on his return?

I have been through this with my husband loosing control 2 years ago which marked the beginningof his mental breakdown, not hurting anyone but with such anger and lost look in his eyes. He was unrecognisable. I didn't know what it was, I should have called the ambulance then but i had no idea what was happening and I ended up managing to calm him down on my own by isolating him in a separate room. I know better now and should this ever happen again (and I really hope it doesn't as that is my limit) I will call the ambulance and police if I have to. I will stand by him should this ever happen again but not as a wife. I can't go through that again. It is frightening and horrific to see the person you know wouldn't hurt a fly in such a state. I have told him this and that is part of his therapy is to learn to manage and control his emotions no matter the situation. Complex ptsd is such a horrible condition to carry.

I stand by you @Tootsy holding your hand. Please know you are doing all you can to support to him. He needs to let help in and work on his mental health. I really hope he does. My husband is on his own journey and I hold hope we will come out the other side but only time will tell.

Please prioritise yourself too.

@Shaz51, I have been ok. My husband is under a huge amount of stress at work and this causes him to lash out at me and the kids but we had some very honest conversations and I realise my anxiety doesn't help the situation. He says he feels watched by me all the time and I guess I have PTS from his mental breakdown and it comes out at times. I remember you saying in a post that sometimes you feel limited by Mr Shaz, your potential I mean. I feel the same at times and wonder how my life would be different if the partner by my side didn't have these mental challenges. Would I have an easier, happier life? Would I be a better person? I know these thoughts are not helpful but in my lowest days I can't help but think this. My husband has always been supportive of all my endeavours and has respected me as a person but his mental breakdown changed him in front of my eyes and when once I saw him as my rock I now feel I can't completely rely on him. Like I said...time will only tell if he can heal enough for us to stay together ❤️. Life is so short.

I wish we all had more happy moments in it that sad.

How are you and Mr Shaz? It's cold in Sydney today. Hoping you are having lots of warm cups of tea to get you through the day.

Love to you ❤️ and hugs my friends @@Shaz51 @Tootsy