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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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PizzaMondoSenior Contributor
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Hey there @Healandlove 🤗
Id like to gently second all of @PizzaMondo 's comments 🙂
And, I would love to sit and have a cuppa with you, and tell some silly jokes, while listening to a campfire crackle 🙂 xx
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Former-Member , @PizzaMondo , @Healandlove , @tyme
Sitting with you all having a cuppa coffee ☕️
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HealandloveSenior Contributor
Oh I wish we could have emojis to react as well as support! Sending you a ☕️🍰...and enjoying a cup of hot chocolate myself 🤗🤗🤗 @Shaz51
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HealandloveSenior Contributor
Thank you @PizzaMondo and @Former-Member . I am not always this strong or clear minded...there are great days...I wish there were more. Hopefully with time things improve more and more
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Hey there @Healandlove 🌺💜🙂
I hope this week has been a bit easier and you have had the resilience there in the tank to help get you through and there’s been good days 🫂💜
I hope your weekend goes well dearest 🙂💜🌺
take good care of you too 😊🤗🦩
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TootsySenior Contributor
@Healandlove @Shaz51 Thank you, sorry I haven’t responded as I need to able to have “me” time to sit and think about my reply and that doesn’t happen to often unfortunately. To give you some idea, there are no children between us as we married at 50 (6 years ago now) and I do feel it’s on a downward spiral in the last few years. I have to work full time now and I guess sometimes I do feel resentful for that, as well as working through my breast cancer treatment, but I managed, but he doesn’t cope well with my new hours. There is no help or support and he refuses to seek it now as we both went to the same therapist and he blames me for venting too much and now she has gone missing in action. He says there is 2sides to a story which is true so I often think I’m the one doing wrong. I just don’t know anymore, no day is a good day lately
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tymeModerator
Thinking of you @Tootsy . Thanks for sharing.
Hope things improve and hope to hear from you again shortly!
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TootsySenior Contributor
@tyme @Thank you I’m feeling so lost. There are glimpses of the man I married, and I know it’s out of his control, but seriously I don’t get that he chooses to treat me the way he does and I don’t know if he even realises it to tell you the truth…or I’m too sensitive? Should I just harden up and ignore all is sniggering remarks..or am I taking it the wrong way? PTSD, ADHD, Anxiety, depression..not his fault and I tell myself that everyday to keep me going. I love this man, I know he has a beautiful heart and soul, just need to get him out of this deep hole.
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tymeModerator
Hearing you @Tootsy . And it's amazing, supportive people that will help him realise you care.
MH journeys can be so unpredictable. Yet it can take one beautiful soul to make a difference.
Hugs. You are not alone.
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