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Seniors Matter

Seniors Matter

Senior Matters 'cause Seniors Matter!

Q&A

What do you picture when you think of a senior person?

What age decade do you think someone becomes a senior?

When should a senior retire?

How do other cultures treat their seniors?

When you think of 70 year olds acting like 50, or a 50 year old living like they're 70... The line becomes quite blurred, with who's 'older'

Of cause everyone would agree that an 80 year old is definately a 'senior' citizen.

So where is the official line that defines Aussies as Seniors?

The answer is 60 years old.

I applied for my seniors card, to try claim all the discounts (I never remember to ask for... when I received the card I was delighted to read the official letter thanking me for being such a wonderful contributer to the Australian community 😇👍 but deep down... something inside me screaming... I'M NOT OLD!

The years of constantly struggling with CPTD anxiety & depression... the years have got away with me and now, im old 😞.... reality is... my body is ageing... the mirror says so, there's wrinkles, there's grey and white streaks, its harder to move, I'm forgetful, i get nervous, lack confidence, I dither and rummage in my handbag, people are starting to pop off around me more, hospital doctors all look 12 yrs old and my friend's kids have grandkids.... This is entirely unacceptable state of affairs and I need support.

I go to the doctor... but sadly even doctors bother less with our aches and pains and worries. She says:

"All part of ageing" -

"not much we can do"...

"not much point doing an x-ray when it's almost definately just arthritis..." 😞 In other words

SUCK IT UP!

Why don't they just have a 'morning after 60 pill' or a euthenasia back door.. How can i face this ageing thing and all the sadness by myself when the doctors even don't care.? Really triggers the SI, how can they not know this and be kinda?

There

was a distinct difference in the way I'm treated since turning 60.

Always echoing in my mind is the comment a GP said about one of his older seniors "past her useby date" Oh dear, it's like we're already dead, but

we just gotta go on like we're not and won't. 😟 😞 Can't stop the decline. Just have to

- roll with the punches

- go with the flow

- age gracefully ...

But sadly, even in Mental Health, there's this undercurrent that "it's too late" for us seniors. Set in our ways they say... the less likely we are to change... and that might be true because we've seen so much, morphed for others a million times, and yes, kinda somewhat disillusioned with constantly changing systems that focus on money more than humanity... Sometimes I wonder if some structures are created to puff out the workforce more than service provision.

But truth is, my biggest hurdle is my deep beliefs about ageing.

- I planned to 'check out' at 50 because everyone gets sick after 50...

- i should have it all together at my age (ha, not happening, getting worse)

- the Kidz will bring the grandkids over for Sunday lunch and I'll love cooking for them... (not happening)

- my hubby will grow old with me, and talk together and hold me close every night. (didn't happen😞)

DOES ANYONE RELATE? OR HAVE A SENIOR ISSUE TO TALK ABOUT?

Appleblossom and Peace have raised senior issues this week...

- RETIREMENT and MOBILITY

I'm hesitant to reveal my age these days, so when it's non consequential, I take off 10yrs. People listen more to 52yr old than they do to 60yr old.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE 60 TO CHAT HERE. OR REVEAL YOUR AGE.

Just love to hear your experiences.

EOR 💌

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You might find that its still in your profile area, under "drafts" @Former-Member

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I invited my neighbour over for Afternoon Tea (Snacks) today @Former-Member @Emelia8 @Eve7 @Zoe7 @Shaz51 @Anastasia @Bunniekins @Appleblossom @eth

She is in her 60's, still working.

It has taken longer (this time), for us to get around to catching up - Reciprocal invites.

It's been a very long tough week (for me).

With GP Dr overwhelming me during most of my Dr's appointment - with disclosure of 2 Suicides (in his immediate family), his physical pain & personal issues.

Harrassing intimidating emails from a Local Government Department.

Then culminating today, with my neighbour telling me of her Mental Breakdown at Work (only a few days ago) - & her being off work now, for several weeks at least.

Yes it was lovely to see her (my neighbour/ friend) - Gee, I cannot hear any more Terribly Bad news.

That was far more than enough for just 2 days (not even a week).....

Going AWOL to a Tropical Island somewhere Remote - Seems Very Inviting....

Adge

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That is all super tough @Adge

How's this? Beautiful. isolated and just what you need...

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❤❤❤ @Adge

@Former-Member , @Zoe7 , @Emelia8 xxx

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Thanks @Zoe7 That's a Lovely Picture - Looks like just the place I need to go to.

Or at least to Imagine Going to...

Thanks @Shaz51 Hugs to you too...

Adge

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@Adge Hugs and hugs Adge. My son's psychologist discusses some awful stuff that he has to deal with in his job to son2 ..... son2 is interested (I dont want to know). Here are some cheery pictures which will hopefully make you feel a bit better.xxx

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6Sxv-sUYtM

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@Emelia8 thanks for your lovely post Saturday, you understand the issues
'get it'
Yes, it was my Birthday yesterday. I didn't expect anyone here to fuss, or my relatives, I don't deserve it, but my friend family IRL really stepped up and I had the best day 🤗 Unfortunately my son had COVID venue exposure and we jointly decided it would be prudent to postpone his visit. Good call as lockdown in Brisbane announced this morning. Such a bother this COVID business, but he did ring and we had one of our best phone chats yesterday.
Funny how when you expect nothing you get blessed the most 🤔 Doesn't matter as my future is secure.
Hope you're ok. Haven't caught up here yet

🍁🌿🍁🌿🍁🌿
Love & Blessings 🤗

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Awwww geee @Former-Member ... I am really sorry I missed your birthday. I wonder does our wonderful keeper of birthdays know @Shaz51 ? I'm not aware of missing any notifications.

I'm really glad that your IRL family friend stepped up and made the say special for you. Actually I thought of you and your Son, when I was following the COVID situation in Brisbane. The additional lockdown is a pain. I really hope things are under control and the lockdown does its job. Hopefully things can open up again in time for Easter family gatherings etc. Its great that your Son phoned you yesterday for your birthday. Shame he could not be there in person, but it sounds like you had a lovely heart to heart over the phone. 💞

Thanks for asking @Former-Member ... yes I'm okay thank you. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and stumbling along. 😊 I am still feeling somewhat quiet around here, though I am checking in regularly and responding sporadically. I havent heard from the vet yet either, regarding Hollys blood tests last Wednesday.

Love, hugs and many blessings to you too dear @Former-Member .

Emelia 🤗🌸

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I am catching up at lunchtime @Former-Member and am very pleased your birthday went well on Palm Sunday.

Please take care my friend as you are very valuable.

🌿💐🌿🌸🌿🌹🌿🌺🌿

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Thinking of you @Adge xx

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