Seniors Matter

made it up on couch 🎉

Can only imagine the fun @Zoe7 🤗

Tobes and Clover both slept on the bed together last night @Former-Member - after Clover snuggled up behind Toby on his bed earlier in the night. They really are getting on extremely well ...Cat even slept on her bed on the chair which she hasn't done since Clover arrived so there is massive progress all around and that makes me really happy.

How is beautiful Georgia? ...and how are you?

Very much hearing you @Former-Member So many times my fur babies have done that for me too and I am grateful for them for that. Do you have much on today?

I really hope son visits tomorrow @Former-Member and you can have a little time together Pushing yourself is sometimes hard to do but with the probablility of a visit tomorrow I hope that gives you some motivation. I am resting this morning before I bath Toby and give him a trim. His nails also need to be cut - which is always an event in itself lol - but they have to be done. I hope you get some more cuddles in with Georgia - catch you later gorgeous

don't deserve anything, apparently my fighting this major depression all my life was not wanted, I'm an unforgivable scourge on society, starting with those closest. Thinking how lucky I am to have got this far guess. My nan didn't live this long (drunk driver). It's all folding in on itself. Futile fighting it off, but gotta try. Bindi Irwin had her baby this week too 😢 (my late daughter's age). Grandkids and no Kidz. Best learn not to expect much these days, find content with what is, one day at a time.

Talked with SIL yesterday, she regrets marrying my bro1 who's end stage MS in care now, they had no children, lost home and business to ventures, left broke and she'sher job just fell through. "got nothing and just waiting to die" she said. She's 64. I've never heard her talk like that before. It's common though for seniors to be this way it seems. Especially the single, andthe widowed, the childless... Disintegration of 'family' in our culture is horrible. I wish I was Greek or Spanish Irvine of those who know how to care for each other, and show respect and dignity for the elderly. My son said he's go live overseas if I learnt too heavy on him... and is glad I had forsight to move to large regional centre with good community care services. Sometimes I wonder if he says these things to intentionally hurt me or just lacking social skills. All the same, boys ain't good with heart issues, and helping if ya in hospital. makes me miss my girl more. But oh... 😢 Betta stop there, go think better things, tidy back yard or something 🍁🍂😭

Hi @Former-Member

I'm sorry to see you are sitting with a lot of grief and heavy thoughts today Just try your best to take care of yourself when feeling so low. Siting with you

Awwww @Former-Member ... you sound really down today.

Has the announcement of Bindi Irwins bub triggered you I wonder? Its likely, given you see her as being the same age as your own dear girl. One of those highlights other people see in their children ... 18th and 21st birthdays, weddings, babies, etc. But one that has been lost to you, with the tragic passing of your little girl. I see this in my brother and his wife all the time. These big events, just bring forward so heartbreakingly, how much you have lost. And what a huge hole it leaves in your life.

It sounds as though your SIL is not coping well at all with the deteriorating health of your brother. Thats sad for her, and I hope she can somehow pull herself through it over time. 64 is not old, and she likely has a lot of years left in her.

What you say is very true about other cultures really valuing their older generations. And treating them as a valuable resourse to the family unit in so many ways. Greek and Spanish people seem to take good care of their oldies. And I know that most of the Asian cultures do as well. I suppose in Australia we are often so widely spaced between states, and it such a big country. And jobs are so 'mobile' that it means working aged people often move quite regularly. I suppose it isnt conducive to having an extended family, with the older generations moving with them. Its sad really. But an unfortunate fact of our lives as they have become for so many of us.

I guess I will more than likely become one of those people you describe ... widowed, childless and no friends. I'm glad you have your Son EOR. I have no doubt he loves you and cares about you a whole lot. But you are right that sons typically do not have the caring nurturing genes that daughters more often do.

Is it your birthday tomorrow EOR? I think I saw you mention that somewhere a day or two ago?

Far from being an unforgivable scourge on society EOR ... I see you as being a blessing to society. You have cared for so many in your profession as a nurse over the years. That requires a special person .. and YOU are special. I only wish that life had been kinder to you over the years. Sending love your way.

Emelia 🤗💞