Burn out

That frog image is gorgeous @Jo-anneJoy

Us Saggies are sensitive types lol ...and being ruled by Jupiter - I wonder what @Jupiter thinks of that

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Haha @Zoe7 🙂 I'm a scorpio, not too sure what that means...

Hi @Zoe7 @sadpisces @Bezak482

I went back to the beginning of this thread - and Sadpisces - I really do understand burn-out - and the sad predictions people can give us when such a thing happens

But no one can predict the future - and it makes it all harder when people - even professional people - tell us we may never work again when work can be a very defining life-process for us

I burned-out when my son was 7 - he was a very unhappy child and there is not need to go into that now - but he all came to a head one morning when my husband was supposed to be going to work away from home for a week - he did so every second week - and it was all too much and I fell in an almighty heap and couldn't go on and did end up in a private psyche clinic that day.

The psychiatrist was okay - she didn't predict anything - but my friends and family couldn't keep out of it - I was doing my first HSC subject that year and I was told it was all too much and to give it up - by just about everyone I knew and for a while I despaired.

I am amazed now that people didn't think my husband working away from home so much and I was left with the children - one of whom was so difficult to manage. But I did continue studying and people continued criticizing. I finished my HSC and went onto study for a university degree part-time and eventually graduated with Honours and so I say to you

If you take your time you can do whatever you chose - it's not up to someone else to declare what you can and can't manage - whatever made you burn-out is part of the problem - and it has to be more than work - maybe it's the work you are doing or the people you work with - maybe it's something entirely different - it may take time for you to sort it out

The people that were nay-sayers at the time when I burned out are all gone from my life now and I know that I worked and studied and ran my home and the story of my life is enhanced by what I did

And I sincerely wish the same for you - taking small steps - starting off part-time - listening to your body and your thoughts and doing what you feel is right for you

I think I read that you are doing something at TAFE - that is really good - and I wish you the best - in this world you are the only person you have to please in spite of what other people insist - it's your life after all and you are the only one who knows all the ins and outs of it

All the best Sadpicses - this is a tough time for you now but life will change

Dec

haha @Jupiter Not sure what that means either but I had a giggle at Saggies 'being ruled by Jupiter' - maybe you being a water sign can put out the fire of Saggies

There's a useful idea @Zoe7

LOL @Jupiter 👍😁

@Jupiter @Zoe7

The sign of scorpio is ruled by Pluto in the new money; Mars in the old coin. Just in case you find yourself in the Who Wants To Be A Millionaire chair....and there's a trick question.

@sadpisces I wonder if you are doing a TAFE course because you are already with an employment services provider and studying is one option of meeting your requirements and lessening the work the case manager has to do for you. Not a lot of choices with the TAFE courses on offer that are subsidised and you can feel obliged to take up the study when presented with the other option: applying for 10-30 jobs per month in a marketplace that is ageist. Lot of external factors here - retirement age is now 67, when we grew up it was 60. Who moved the goal posts...

No chance of me being in the Who Wants to be a Millionaire chair @Jo-anneJoy - there would be too many people for me and I would freeze being on the spot with questions firing at me ...that is my definition of anxious

Hey @sadpisces How are you today?

Hi @Zoe7 I hope you've had a great day.

I completely agree with your comments on Who wants to be a Millionaire!

I've not had a great day, I've been trying to do my Tafe work without assistance and it's taken me hours and a lot of anxiety.

On a positive note I did get out for a walk with a friend. I am agorophobic and find walking alone makes me very anxious.

Hi @Jupiter thank you for your message. I'm actually on Workcover and doing the Tafe course to try and update my skills and occupy my days.

Funny you should mention Job Service Providers as my job was an Employment Advisor who did put people into Tafe courses. This is the position where I had my breakdown after 10 years of pressure and unrealisitic targets and KPI's. It is such a high pressured industry most people don't stay in the role long term. I only wish I had been able to secure another position however my age is aginst me.