QUOTES THAT SETTLE MY MIND

Yes @Former-Member - I understand that

People tend to live a long time in my family - so I have had the chance to see what long term - seriously long term - relationships can be like

Maybe that filtering of time does allow them to understand the other person - and yet - even between my own parents and other close relatives in later years - I have seen and heard or been told - about their little narks -

So I guess love and time to give this insight to the elderly couples who have somehow lasted time's enduring ravages - they know each other so well - those little irritations have not dimmed their respect for each other - they understand - and it must be okay or their children or nieces etc don't but in, don't exclaim - just listen with amused inner-sight gained during their own trips through middle-age - alone or not - and smile privately and keep it to themselves -

It's pretty wonderful actually - to have my aging relatives - tell me something like that - ah - yes - that friendship they found in each other - maybe had the chance to grow into mature love - and the friendship still exists.

I think it may not be the loss of love that destroys a relationship but the loss of the friendship that drew them together first - I think that was so in my case

Decadian