Sleeping too much

Wow! That was a long one, lol. I hope that you don't mind. Sounds like you need distractions, I guess reading messages is a good distraction, haha! @Former-Member xoxoxo

Oh dear, funeral day on 3rd, gosh, Tawney, such alot to deal with. Lots of love to you, big hug too.

Hi @Former-Member

I understand some of what you are saying really well - and it's okay to talk about yourself - it makes it easier to reply with some insight into what's happening

I have been through some of the same stuff - and it makes the whole thing so hard to live with - and like you - I left my family

Sometimes we have to do this for our own health - and luckily I don't feel at all guilty about the past - if people push you away - then I guess the choice is to keep going back for more or stay away and feel the grief of the situation

We have a thead somewhere about feeling Grief and Guilt about Aging Parents - you could read a lot there -

I wish I could help more - but please don't beat yourself up - it is not supposed to be a guilt-trip to stay away when your people give you a hard time

I know from experience

Dec

dearest @Former-Member

Please talk about yourself. We are not qualified ( the moderators are @CherryBomb and @NikNik are but we are just genuinely interested people. Our past experiences are often the same.......

PP

Here's a cuppa for you to have with @Shaz51 who is my special friend.

One for me and all us here on this thread too.

Ohhhh @Former-Member, sending you lots of hugs my friend

sorry about last night xoxo

Thanks @Decadian

Yes, families can be complicated and best kept away from. It's just the 3 of us now, but I'm used to it now. It took a long time to get used to it though. Lots of grieving etc., but definitely for the best. xoxo

Thanks for the cuppa @PeppiPatty

Just what I needed. Am having an Earl Grey at the moment.

Seems that most of us have complicated families.

You're such a sweet, loving person. xoxoxo

I hope that you are enjoying you day.

LOL

❤️ it @Former-Member .... lol .... ❣

@Former-Member xx

Dearest @Former-Member

I've just read your long message.. You are:

1. not self involved.

2.. Helped me work some things out inside my head.

I dont go on those threads you mention. I have my niche like you have your niche. I felt your anger and it came inside me and it left like it left you.

I feel very blessed with my three brothers, after many years of them leaving me out.....they are all paying for me to visit them for my 50th this year. I am spending one week with one in Sydney and one week in Adelaide..I wonder what these cities are like?

My youngest brother, the naughty one, lives overseas. My Mum who is 75 years old has had this hold over my brothers for many years.....now I just feel .............

It's taken me many years to beccome comfortable with myself. This comes and goes a lot. I saw my brother last week, the middle one the favourite one and it was tense.....I so hope that we can get trhough it.

In the past, before medication, I used to take those diet pills, the speedy tablets at family get togethers. Now I am going to try to speak to them normally.

I have gotten very anxious whenever my brothers names have been spoken about in the past. It has caused me a lot of shame because I know it was my Mum seperating us but then.....why has it been me writing letters trying to get get togethers?