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Sleeping too much
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Wow @Former-Member .... that's a mess ..... you did so well to navigate it, hurdled the trigger (massive!!) and took yourself into a coffee time-out to regroup ....
So, so, so well done .... ❣
You're in the wringer there my girl ....
Can you ask the doc about respite support systems - make him aware that you're dad need support at home, you have two brothers with mi who are causing major issues, you have your own mi struggle in the background, so there is only so long you can glue this together. An intervention is required before he goes from one patient to five within the day ....
Keep taking breaks @Former-Member. You will need that .... there will likely be a delayed emotional kick-back once the immediacy of this situation has passed.
Hugs n hugs ....
Make sure you take care of YOU as a priority ....
❤️ ❤️ ❤️
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ShimmerSenior Contributor
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Wow @Former-Member, there is so much going on for you! I can imagine you are feeling really worried about your mum and family, and experiencing unhelpful pressure from your brother, as well as distress due to the hospital bringing back memories. You seem to handing a very difficult situation amazingly well.
I'm glad you have taken a moment for you, well done.
We are here for you too 
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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I am glad you managed the coffee @Former-Member So many different hugely triggering situations.
So maybe you knew deep down it was VERY important to do this trip and do it properly. Stay as long as you have to .. to be square with yourself.
I actually could relate to the waaamabulance, did not mean to make out it was sinful, still think it was probably necessary & good boundary setting. Your brothers will have to face up to losing the support of their ageing of both their parents. You dont have to fill in any gaps for them. Pity when the ambulance were needed it got complicated, but glad your mum is finally where she needs to be.
I am pretty frustrated with your brothers too. They are giant little kids. My parents were not like that. They tried to face their responsibilities as well as they could, even though it wasnt enough. They did not use MH as an excuse. I think it is reasonable to "name the game" from time to time. Its your judgement call. Frustration is not necessarily sin. Its difficult & sad and protect yourself.
Walking and posting with you.
You have been an angel of mercy.
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Unknown userMember
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Reading and here with you @Former-Member. Sending hugs for everything cos there's too many to list.
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Unknown userMember
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Wow, thank you @Shimmer, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member, @utopia, @Appleblossom... You guys say the right stuff, thank you. I grabbed the grocery list & pizza bread but when I got home Bro4 had left (having got another $150 out of dad, but couldnt even check if dad had eaten). I found dad hoeing into mouldy yoghurt, omg, I struggled to get it off him gosh, yuk. He liked the pizza bread and watermelon. I told Bro4 off but he just abused me back. Guess bros are just ill & ageing themselves. I dont feel like a merciful angel with bros or when mum refuses to get in the wheelchair then does the dying swan thing outside drs surgery. And when she says she cant walk to the car yet bounces up to give the cat water after i have called ambos. Im no angel, get irritated and nauseated at the unnecessary drama. But i'm here and more patient, less reactive than usual. If mum dies with this - crap. Poor MumDad. I'm gonna have to talk with someone - like you say F&H but they won't to go to anything that resembles a nursing home, not even for respite. The whole situation sucks. I just have to stay calm. I will be filing a complaint with ambulance service when I get the energy.
Thanks again guys, sorry its all about me at the moment. xox
Thanks again guys, sorry its all about me at the moment. xox
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member. No neex to be sorry. You need to make it more about you. Keep doing what youcan for your mum and dad. Smile through mums silly escapes of ccan't walk - but will run to cat. I saw that with my gran. Actually brings a smile to my face now - how cheeky she was.
Look after yourself. Standing with you - as are others.
♥♥
Look after yourself. Standing with you - as are others.
♥♥
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TABSenior Contributor
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Hi @ tawney .. ambos may have been there lots of times prob for brothers by sounds of it. Wont go into why people need to lie to parents to get money and always have set amounts in head. Been thru that years ago. Re people doing and saying anything to get money from me. Can't there be a govt appointed trusted person to look after their money? They prob would be doing ok on veterans pension if sons weren't living off them. Any best out of there for your sake sounds. That's my 2c worth. Soz. Just end up getting dragged down with the rest of them else
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Unknown userMember
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Hmm, maybe, praying about it
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TABSenior Contributor
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Go home @Former-Member ..prayers can help you, but no ony else in the picture it sounds.. do what you have to ..and you have done way above and beyond.. and .. just get the hell out of there and away from them.. family ..yes.. but doesn't work when only caring compus person arrives from outside.. sounds like Waterworld or mad maxs 2 and beyond .. is that you? .. you've done more than can possibly expected .. time for Tawney methinks.. just leave them to it. Say your goodbyes and look after You..
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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It is difficult when your mother's capacity comes & goes .. pretty bloomin frustrating .. I guess I was lucky that my mother decided early to go into palliative care. It could have been much more difficult if I had to do a lot of the practical work.
You dont have to be the nurse for your family or your parents. It is enough to be one of their children and a sister. There is a kind of pre-grieving in dealing with all this.
In the old days there was more care in home by family. These days more people are taking the supports that are around. Some people are stubborn or worried about losing thier privacy. I hope they come around. As the nurse you are you can help guide them in decision making but you shouldnt have to do it all.
I am glad your mum gave you the necklace .. its a token of her love .. between all the spits & spats .. if you stay a few more days ... claim plenty of time-out for you.
