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Sleeping too much
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TABSenior Contributor
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Cake sounds good. @Former-Member. Lots smiley faces yest, know its all fake but it still works 😀 Yeah work up with sore ear too, side I was lying on in hosp? Coincidence? Feels been lying on a brick. Really sore. Guess didn't move at all last night during 10hr sleep lol ..needed it
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TABSenior Contributor
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'Woke'
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@Decadian, sorry about all your anniversaries too. A few of us here on the forums have them this time of year. Thinking of @Appleblossom a lot. The weather triggers a lot of vivid memories/emotion for me. My girl died Australia Day. Just getting over Christmas and...
You hit the nail on the head with my son. He's slipped while attacking those apron strings again, and got me in the heart, again, and he didn't e end notice. He was probably in the shower when I rang. Don't want to inconvenience anyone.
We did have a tx exchange:
O815 (me) HAPPY BIRTHDAY ###, Tried to ring this morning. Wishing you a great day! A king Parrott just came by as I'm typing 🙂 Remember "there's a bright side to everything" count the good stuff. Stay strong. Hope you like the little gift I sent. Take care, see you soon. Big hugzzzzzzzz! love you! Mum.
0925 (son) Hi mum, thanks for the well wishes! I'll call you later. I don't have internet today so can't see your pictures or open links.
0928 (me) oh nooooo! No internet on ya birthday 😞 Is that a choice? Hope you have a good day anyway. Grab some donuts, enjoy the aircon! mum
0935 (son) The internet is broken because 4G is broken. The aircon at work is broken today too
0939. (me) Would ya like Big Mamma to get onto it for you? Cheer up!
0951 (son) Please don't talk to me like that. I want an adult to adult relationship with you, not "Big Mamma" and son.
0953 (me) Oh, pardon me, thought we were in Joke zone
1020 Tim, I know you don't need mothering now, Adult to adult is fine, and we are on separate life journeys now, but I am, always have been and always will be your mum, and loved you and been there for you as such, to my best, since before your birth. I have always loved being your mum, always will, what you do with that is your business. So sorry for the bad stuff. You're on a better path. Be kind, be your own best friend Tim 🙂
1150 no further comms
So you see, it feel s like I can't win. He is going through a hard time too ATM - breaking up with his 5yr defacto and new job so guess I'll back off. He needs love but pushes it away. Thus is the nature of blackdog (inherited) poor darling.
Oh, I just got a craving for a Quiche Lorraine. but think I'll have a sleep
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You guys take care
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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You're right @Former-Member
If you try and be your son's mother he wants a friend but if you try and be his friend he wants a mother so this is a tough one - ouch - you can't win with this any more than I can be on an even keel with TS - time has to pass
I didn't think - I didn't realise - your son's birthday is between Christmas etc and Australia Day when your always to be a little-girl daughter died. Bad dates - bad memories - one event triggers other memories that fall over like a line of dated dominoes - I get it
I read my dds facebook once - not much their - but on a sensitive date she made a sensitive message to a friend - ahhhh I have never let her know I even know she has a fb - it was a year or more after she posted that message before I read it so why mention it but I think our surviving kids have a pile of issues to work through - survivor's guilt, resentment - and "Hey - I'm still here - take notice of me - but then - don't notice too much"
Young people can be so much of a pain and have no idea how a parent - how a mother - can love several children all at the same time and love them all differently according to who they are
I am thinking of you today
Dec
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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I forgot about the endoscopy @Former-Member - ache, creak - no wonder the Black Dog is out of the kennel
Those drugs stuff me around too - and jab jab jab at your hand with the needle - hah!! - you would be unwise to complain at the time because they have a weapon but blast - a little competency would be handy and would not go astray
I'm about to have a coffee with you - mine will be black because I haven't got any milk - shopping tomorrow will be welcome but I don't mind black coffee - it goes back to the days when I did temporary and emergency accounts work - I would take my own cup and often things were so bad I took my own water as well
But there we are - if you are tired today - no bl**dy wonder - time to sleep off the GA if you can
Dec - with lots of virtual hugs and you have sent enough group hugs - I should find one for you
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TABSenior Contributor
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Hows that not winning @Former-Member. Guys are guys mums are mums. Give him a bit of space maybe. If you need to chat, and someone doesn't want to, in the manner you do or to same extent, best to say he texted me back, hes at work. Glad he's okay and Im not bothering him 😀... just saying.. cant make people into things they arent.
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Unknown userMember
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I know @TAB, and he IS at work & said he WILL ring later. And yes, it is HIS day he can do what he likes. He's a quality human being really and i'm proud of him, Expect too much I know. But good to be reminded of the common cold hard male perspective on relationships. Maybe I'm expecting him to fill the impossible void of lost husband, daughter, sister & mother. He's all I got vur doesn't wanna be. I don't care anymore. Hurts too much.
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TABSenior Contributor
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Take it easy @Former-Member read a book, listen to the birds, be happy for him. Go and have a coffee and or an iceblock 
see you on the park bench mabes. Sounds like he does more than most, and has his own stuff. Be happy for him. Yes males can seem 'cold' ..aren't females supposed to be better at empathy? ..just sayin' .. you'll be ok. just be happy/distract, do something for YOU
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Unknown userMember
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Yep @TAB, an ice block sounds great, need to cool off, but not over him, just everything, life, even put NY foot in it with mum again today grr (accidentally gave her a new axe to grind for the year), have buises from yesterday, and still have diarrhoea. General crapola, bit grumpy sorry. Thanks for connecting though. Do you have any of after affects from yesterday?
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Just realised (not) that we GET a hug when we GIVE a hug. So, here's a great big Pooh Bear fanily hug for each and every one of you. Suck it up! Love you guys 🙂
