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Hi @Faith-and-Hope

Thanks for explaining more of this Arthro ED your WH has - yes - I think I see the punitive side of his eating and exercise - like - no sesh - no meat - and if he loses weight he can eat spanakopita - something that looks and sounds pretty terrible to me - but then I eat my spinach raw and only the small leaves - I don't like it cooked

It's really hard to understand where the MI and bad behaviour starts and ends - difficult - and why he puts himself through this - and how much other people have to accomodate him - but then - you and your kids are hanging onto the good parts that are left - and wait for him to see that it is a problem and get that dx you so badly need

I supposed we all have our dislikes and really hates - I cannot stand cauliflour - the taste worse than repels me - but a friend had a dig at me that I was like a little kid taking the cauliflour out of my prepared meals and ditching it - I get three meals delivered each week - and they all taste pretty much the same - back to the story

I really can't stand cauliflour - it nearly makes me throw up - and I am an adult and I can have my oddities - they don't affect anyone else - but I rang the company that prepares these meals and now they don't put any cauliflour into my meals - and at least they don't taste like cauliflour

But thinking about it - where is the boundary? Where does it stop being a choice and start being a problem? I guess that point is when our health is at risk or what we do can impinge onto other people

How much longer will you be overseas? - it seems you have been there for a long long time. I know you thought things would be easier while you were travelling - but it must be very hard for you sharing a room with him

I honestly don't know how you do it - you do have love and faith and hope and patience and a lot of other good things as well - he doesn't know how lucky he is to have you

And I continue to wish you the best with all of that

Dec

Oh @Former-Member

Your Mum and Dad are not well and not coping and you live 1200km away and the drive alone is traumatic and your mother doesn't like your clothes- I guess that's what I read - and it sounds really hard

But my mother didn't like my clothes either - it's such a pain - but I agree with whoever it was said wearing dark coloured clothing is better - I have mostly dark colours and try to have them loose as well -

But how come it is you who is going to do all this driving - I would rather it was you if you were doing the visiting for me - than your TS - but that is a huge task to do every week and your health is not good and you pretty much have chronic pain as well as a lot of stress related disorders

It sounds too hard - my mother was being well cared for and my sister was doing all the POA stuff - and as my mother ordered me away I gave up - why put up with all of that nasty mouth.

You can be honest with me - but but in a few days it will be the second annivesary of Mum's passing, ah - she died - she left - whatever - and I have not felt not the least bit of guilt about not visiting her - but then - she was being well cared for

Whatever you do and whatever you wear and whoever you are and whether you have your Eleanor Rigby face - that's an expensive item - that face - it is fine with me - you have to do what's right for you

But it has to be right for you - maybe it's time for your oldies to go into care - it's so hard

I am sure there is something I did not read - care heaps Tawney - please look after yourself though

Dec [hugs]

Hi @Former-Member

I see you have a new job - that was what I missed I guess

I have a clothing tantrum at times - I have enough to go on with but one thing I do not enjoy is fitting rooms

All the best - congrats etc - take it gently at first -

Work - that has to be the best thing - but I had better read back on some of the threads - I have lost track in the last couple of days

Dec

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Hugs @Former-Member

how are you today my friend xx