Sleeping too much

Hello @Shaz51

Sounds like a very busy weekend and which can be good at times (keep us rolling on). When anxiety is high I dont do well in crowds and shopping centres etc either. Hope Monday treats you well 🙂

Hi @PeppiPatty

Thank you for your reply and sounds like we do have some similarities in feelings and thoughts around our mothers. Yes I have voiced it out loud and its a tricky relationship at best for many but more so when there has been negelct and abuse (early on). I agree, I am working on different feelings and thoughts around my mum especially when we are able to have glimpses of connection and seeing her vulnerability. I do feel good that I do what I do physically for her (I like to help, it just feels good) and more so as there is a genunie need. I probably will still be marrying up the feelings and thoughts for quite some time as I cut a lot of everything off to raise my daugther and hardly saw her for 20 years. Thanks for your input @PeppiPatty🙂

Hello @PurpleFlowers,

how are you this morning xx

yes it was a busy weekend ( Too busy ) as hubby is very very tired this morning

I think he is going to find it very hard today

Hello @Former-Member, @PeppiPatty, @Faith-and-Hope, @Decadian xx

Hi @PurpleFlowers

Yes - you had to do your best for your daughter for 20 years - that's the correct order of things - and it seems that as hard as it is to help your mother out you do - for the best part - find it the right thing and it's okay most of the time. Those barriers must be working for you

Hi @Shaz51 -

I understand that after a busy weekend your hubby is tired - but what about you? How are you feeling?

Dec

Hi @PurpleFlowers & @Decadian

Good to see you chatting.

I have just been to Centrelink with my son and then off for a Christmas party with a group I have been entitled to join for years. I have never met them yet, just the social worker who organises it, but it has taken this long for me to get. its a nice short drive in the country so should be good and yum lunch in a pub. Its related to people who have been in care .. so I know they will have issues and I wont have to pretend.

@Former-Member Thinking of you lots

and @PeppiPatty and @faithandhope and the people in general on here.

Cheers Apple

HI @Appleblossom

Thanks - and I wish you the best with the group and the people you will be meeting for the first time

Yes - it will be easier for you not having to pretend - all these people have been in care and have issues

Having been in care why would they not have issues

Have the best day possible

Dec

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

I am trying to imagine what it's like having Christmas at 0 degrees - fridge door open - oh golly- when I travel to Britain I am going during our winter - what a good idea to be overseas then

Anyway - am I allowed to be horrified that your MIL actually travelled with you on your overseas holiday? - Now I was never friends with my MIL - let's not go into that - it's and old old story- but I can't quite imagine that - any more than I can imagine travelling with my dd and her family

I guess I am used to travelling alone - right now I am planning my trip to Hobart - I have rellies there - I have driven all over Tassie alone - now I stick to small cities when I travel and walk a lot and get lost and need to get a taxi back to my base-

But it seems to be working out except for your anniversary and presents of souvenires - oh dear - I guess you don't have to buy any souvenires to give to other people when you get back

Apart from the cold weather it seems to be pretty interesting though

Dec

Hii @PeppiPatty

I know you haven't forgotten - we all have this mother-thing - or most of us do

I know my mother was not always horrible - there were times when she was kind - but more often she was really hard to love - somehow I managed to love her in spite of her cutting tongue

She had a rotten childhood - and having two children only a year apart must have been too much for her - and although I can see the reasons for her behaviour they are not excuses -

Voicing it - and having contacts here who have been through the rough stuff is a relief and makes the whole story endurable - we can't change the past but I guess we can be the better person in the story

Dec

Hi @PurpleFlowers

I can't help it, it might be because I've known her for so so long but whenever the @Appleblossom of the Apple writes to me, I get excited to read even if I'm unable to write......she knows.

Also because we know each other so well.

With @Former-Member ...I want to go swimming down the beach with her.....dunno why.Not in the sun.....in the afternoon, do you want hot chips after in that cafe down the beach?

@Teej I think of going to see jazz music playing in the woods in a groovy ramshakle hut.

@Decadian we are drinking tea in the back garden, roses all over the place and those beautiful gardenias too .....oh wow....whos turn is it to make biscuits ?

@Shaz51 my special friend, well we are reading magasines in comfy chairs down the cafe.....very kool

@Faith-And-Hope well, we are down the museum having a giggle and signing up for a silver work jewellery course.......

@Jacques ......please please invite me over so I can tapestry with your Mum and can you play with Arlo ?

@lisajane...I bought a jewellery box for your daughter for Christmas......an pockamon toys for your son, can I come over and play with them ??

who else?? Sorry If I have forgot you....guess what? My husband who was getting Very rotund..... and he's lost 5 ks from not eating sugar in one week.....

we are both in shock......