Sleeping too much

Thanks @Kurra ... 😊💕

I have been told bu support services that I see to be doing a decent job of looking after myself in all of this, as well as walking by him under very difficult circumstances .... I'm getting the distinct impression that most partners don't / can't stay when it comes down to this .... but it also sounds like my WH has managed to combine several forms of e.d. at once .... and that it's probably masking an underlying mi issue ....

He is a powerful personality, so going off-track was gonna be done powerfully too .... no real surprise in it for those who are aware he is unwell .... he also doesn't understand doing things by halves .... 😏:face_with_rolling_eyes:😜

The work-away-sometimes scenario he has set up is actually pretty sensible under the circumstances .... and is providing relief on both sides I think ... so I'm not surprised you have worked out your own balance that involves part-time and living apart .... it makes sense.

This may also help to serve WH's recovery, when it comes to that, cos it's not gonna be easy ....

Sorry I'm jumping in late @Faith-and-Hope @Kurra. I really respect both of you for finding what works best for you both. I never thought I'd leave mine because of his MI issues and sometimes wish that I'd had better support to understand it. For me the killer and final straw was him not taking responsibility for his issues or MI. Also didn't help that I couldn't step back enough to see everything and hand control back to him. I guess when I finally hand that all back he just made everything worse by turning to substance abuse. I think that is amazing for both of you to be able to do that in completely different ways. Thinking of ya💜😊

The decisions are never easy @Former-Member .... 😔 You know you did the right thing .... it's still clear that it would be your decision again ....

Thought I was leaving for a while last year .... might still come to that if we don't get my guy back .... this one is more married to his mum than me at the mo .... :face_with_rolling_eyes:☹️

If this path of least resistance hadn't worked, I would have left .... WH spread the load as well by starting this pattern of going away every ten weeks or so ... then it became six .... now it's been about 3 for the last few months .... but the dysfunctional food behaviour has been getting worse .... and he is living a false life trying to disguise it ....

Promised D3 this time last year I would try to hold it together till she graduated ..... only 'cause of the extremely vindictive state WH was in at that time .... he would have trashed absolutely everything in that state of mind .... and it was because I was trying to break through the denial to reach him ....

The kids have just baled on watching a movie - they've got assignments due in tomorrow - but WH has agreed to watch with me .... 😳😯 ....

He's usually snoring within 20mins .... so exhausted .... so let's see where this goes ....

Gonna say goodnight for now .... but might be back if he crashes .... I've seen this movie already ..... 😏

Made me chuckle @Faith-and-Hope but I do hope you have a nice night together. And I do get all your method in your madness 😉😘💜

@Kurra @Former-Member

I have probably missed you both tonight .... It's earlier over here .....

WH did doze a bit, but the movie hooked him in, so he kept himself awake to see it finished .... 😏 .... he's a history buff, and it was about Irish immigration to New York in the 40's or 50's .....

I try to gently disrupt his regimen when I think I can get away with it .... just keep reminding him that there is a life beyond it .... and he can still achieve a full night's sleep ....

Hope you both rest well. You too @Former-Member ....

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Had a very quiet day @Former-Member no good physically, dr's and dentists tomorrow. Went to bed couple hrs ago, after second time woke looked at time and got up again