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Sleeping too much
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I might be wrong but i always thought our personality is the way we relate to other people & the world. P is not who we are but HOW we communicate. We can be very misunderstood by our delivery. The thing is, we're all individually 'different' and i don't like that these eggspurts decide that some are disordered. Why can't we just be 'different' They probably need boxes to categorise personality in terms of treatment options. Which there's no treatment for really, just coping skills.
PERSONALITY refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. The study of personality focuses on two broad areas:
- One is understanding individual differences in particular personality characteristics, such as sociability or irritability.
- The other is understanding how the various parts of a person come together as a whole.
Personality disorders can be caused by genetics, early abuse & trauma, among other factors that contribute to the development of obsessive-compulsive, narcissism etc
PERSONALITY refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. The study of personality focuses on two broad areas:
- One is understanding individual differences in particular personality characteristics, such as sociability or irritability.
- The other is understanding how the various parts of a person come together as a whole.
Personality disorders can be caused by genetics, early abuse & trauma, among other factors that contribute to the development of obsessive-compulsive, narcissism etc
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Yes, you are right @Former-Member.
I personally think: my Mum, @sadgirls Mum are too.....bitter to see what they are missing out on:
I have always gravitated to poor people, eccentric, people who live on the edges because there is no punches to punch in their language..... it is up front and it is how it is. It can be trajic but you can be upfront and tell: yes, you are being too up front.....
For instance:
I've had a friend for about two years, gone to visit him for two years, just a friend and .....havent seen him for a while but my hubby and me went to visit him today and he gave me these boots ....I felt , wow, he's just trying to say, he likes our very uncomplicated friendship.....he gets along very well with my hubby, thats great........
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Unknown userMember
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Oh dear, getting things mixed up here tonight, brain slug. Will try again after a sleep. Nice to see you @PeppiPatty, 💕
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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you GO GIRL @Former-Member
I read the other thread ... so it made sense to me. Totally agree.
@PeppiPatty There was a girl (20ish) in my choir who wore AMAXING BRIGHT PINK boots like docmartens ... big soles and lace-ups ... I loved them .... so satirical ... now thats intelligent fashion.
Lovely to be appreciated by friends Peppi
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Unknown userMember
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Oh dear, hope its not another slump coming on. Hate how it hits my body as well as my mind. Trying to work out what went wrong, if anything.
You know, its not unlike coming down with a bad cold - I look back 48hrs to see who / what I've been in contact with. Almost always there's a contact, point where i was exposed. So I'm looking at whats happened this last 48hrs, inner world & outer world? My son hasn't replied to my last 2 text messages on the weekend (interpretation - he hates me), laying in bed instead of going to church (interpretation - I'm hopeless). Key people have widthdrawn from me (everyone leaves, I'm always messing up, stuffing up friendships, what's so horrible about me?, am i just too much trouble for people, to heavy a burden, too sad?). My house, decluttering, reorganising, stuff spread everywhere, losing track of what i'm doing, so many memories... So much loss i can hardly breathe).
Can anyone hear me
You know, its not unlike coming down with a bad cold - I look back 48hrs to see who / what I've been in contact with. Almost always there's a contact, point where i was exposed. So I'm looking at whats happened this last 48hrs, inner world & outer world? My son hasn't replied to my last 2 text messages on the weekend (interpretation - he hates me), laying in bed instead of going to church (interpretation - I'm hopeless). Key people have widthdrawn from me (everyone leaves, I'm always messing up, stuffing up friendships, what's so horrible about me?, am i just too much trouble for people, to heavy a burden, too sad?). My house, decluttering, reorganising, stuff spread everywhere, losing track of what i'm doing, so many memories... So much loss i can hardly breathe).
Can anyone hear me
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Yes @Former-Member ❣
I don't know how to express this to you, so I'm just going to spit it out and hope you feceive it with the biggest hug possible ..... you need to go a bit easy on yourself !❣
You have just tackled the most amazingly emotional weekend ❣
You have confronted so much emotional content with incredible grace and resilience .... I am in complete awe of how you have just tackled the rearranging you achieved with the practical outlook you took on in the face of it all .... ❣
I didn't want to say too much in the moment, for fear it would trigger a slump in you mid-task and prevent you from meeting your objectives ..... but you have done it all ❣
So incredibly proud of you, my friend ❣
Not at all surprised you are feeling the onset of a slump .... there has even been a lot of difficult emotional sharing on the forums these last few days .... which I hope .... although painful in the moment ... is actually part of the release that leads ultimately to healing .... or a better state of mind or management at the very least ❣
Big, soft, gentle hugs to you ❣
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Unknown userMember
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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, appreciate it, and know you're really stretched yourself atm.
Don't hear those words 'proud of you' much. Thanks for that F&H.
Trying to be both 'kind with myself' but also stop quitting & sitting, brother! Actually haven't got far with the declutter, seems I've just spread it everywhere, think i'd win Olympic Gold in procrastination - keep finding myself sitting.
Its true though, gotta not beat myself up, what does it matter if others wouldn't like how i live? And there has been a lot of emotional triggers here lately. Thanks for being honest.
Gotta draw closer to the Holy Spirit who longs to be with us. The great comforter.
At least i took a shower and started my big clean up
Probably best to focus more on being calm and looking nice for my sons Grad next week. For him. The house can wait. Actually, thats why i started sorting stuff, to find something wonderful to wear.
Hope to get to KYB later today - starting a new study for the term. This group are rushed & don't stop for cuppa & chats, the study is kind of rushed through without discussion & then everyone runs off. Guess they're not as lonely as me.
Listening to a magpie singing outside, pretty. A couple of king parrots visited this morning - noisy squawks but lovely vibrant red & green. Love the birds - they get me off the couch💕
🐦🐥🐤🐦🐥🐤🐦🐥🐥🐦💕
Don't hear those words 'proud of you' much. Thanks for that F&H.
Trying to be both 'kind with myself' but also stop quitting & sitting, brother! Actually haven't got far with the declutter, seems I've just spread it everywhere, think i'd win Olympic Gold in procrastination - keep finding myself sitting.
Its true though, gotta not beat myself up, what does it matter if others wouldn't like how i live? And there has been a lot of emotional triggers here lately. Thanks for being honest.
Gotta draw closer to the Holy Spirit who longs to be with us. The great comforter.
At least i took a shower and started my big clean up
Probably best to focus more on being calm and looking nice for my sons Grad next week. For him. The house can wait. Actually, thats why i started sorting stuff, to find something wonderful to wear.
Hope to get to KYB later today - starting a new study for the term. This group are rushed & don't stop for cuppa & chats, the study is kind of rushed through without discussion & then everyone runs off. Guess they're not as lonely as me.
Listening to a magpie singing outside, pretty. A couple of king parrots visited this morning - noisy squawks but lovely vibrant red & green. Love the birds - they get me off the couch💕
🐦🐥🐤🐦🐥🐤🐦🐥🐥🐦💕
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Unknown userMember
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Awe! The polar bears hugging just came through 💕
Sweet! Gotta go was my face lol
Sweet! Gotta go was my face lol
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kaybee75New Contributor
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Hi. New person here. Just been reading all the various discussions and this thread really struck a chord. Haven't left the house since last Wednesday - actually tbh haven't really left the couch. Not eating properly, not sleeping - hubby and stepdaughter moving around me like I'm furniture. Also (and hubby hasn't noticed this yet) been a bit patchy with meds. Not helping I know, but got a mental block against them atm. Don't know what I'm hoping to achieve by sharing this - just felt the need to.
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Unknown userMember
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Yeah @kaybee75, know that paralysed state. Have you been like this before? If so what helps.
You need to tell someone how you feel (and take those meds properly). Your Hubby & stepdaughter do notice, believe me, tell him you need to talk (alone).
With your meds - buy one of those weekly pill organisers, helps me keep up with them.
Whats also helped me is to engage the 5 senses with potent 'wake-me-ups' -
SMELLS: - oils burner, incense, menthol rub, perfume... TOUCH - squeeze an ice cube, massage your feet, ask for a backrub, take a shower, shove your arm in ice cold water, go for a swim... EARS - listen to your favourite music... EYES - look at your favourite images, look at bright colours, colour in.TASTE - suck a lemon, herbal tea, have your fav meal...
With eating properly - get the slow cooker going, make bulk pumpkin vegie soup with beans lentils herbs & soup bone. Freeze in meal sizes. I do this, because I just don't feel like steamed vegies most days. I also grab 2BBQ chickens a fortnight, break the flesh off into meal size freezer bags & freeze it too. You'll always have a meal this way - great for winter. Also, Baked Beans & eggs on toast are so easy.
Most of all, be kind to yourself & others. Get through winter 🙂
You need to tell someone how you feel (and take those meds properly). Your Hubby & stepdaughter do notice, believe me, tell him you need to talk (alone).
With your meds - buy one of those weekly pill organisers, helps me keep up with them.
Whats also helped me is to engage the 5 senses with potent 'wake-me-ups' -
SMELLS: - oils burner, incense, menthol rub, perfume... TOUCH - squeeze an ice cube, massage your feet, ask for a backrub, take a shower, shove your arm in ice cold water, go for a swim... EARS - listen to your favourite music... EYES - look at your favourite images, look at bright colours, colour in.TASTE - suck a lemon, herbal tea, have your fav meal...
With eating properly - get the slow cooker going, make bulk pumpkin vegie soup with beans lentils herbs & soup bone. Freeze in meal sizes. I do this, because I just don't feel like steamed vegies most days. I also grab 2BBQ chickens a fortnight, break the flesh off into meal size freezer bags & freeze it too. You'll always have a meal this way - great for winter. Also, Baked Beans & eggs on toast are so easy.
Most of all, be kind to yourself & others. Get through winter 🙂
