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Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Faith-and-Hope,
just wondering how ya going? Family away, more time alone. And ya dad convalescing with you - hows that going? You make a lot of sense. I really like your posts, that your so real and shared faith, never give up like i have will you.
Still laying in bed here, where its warm, contemplating the benefits of eating & drinking if any. But about to shake a leg, i think.
Did ring my mum last night for her birthday. She has so much & still complains. Her sister still talks to her, my brother & his wife brang a big meal over last night, my sister & i mailed gifts & her hubby, dad, rang the youngest brothers to "get their butts over there & visit her. I don't have any of that. Mum didn't ring me the first time last birthday, and no apology. Last night She asked me if the dog got her parcel (the schmockos) but my avoiding the topic had her laughing down the phone at me "you're jealous of the dog!" On that note i politely signed off for the night saying i was glad she's had a good day. I was glad she seemed to like my gift at least, a pink hand knitted bed jacket, she said its identical to the one her aunty M.... made her when she was pregnant with me, 58yrs ago (wow).. She thinks her aunty is watching after me, guiding me etc, this great aunt i can barely remember, apparently really liked me as a small child, my big smile, and called me 'sunshine' Or so mum says.
Don't understand it but rather than be happy i find it gutwrenching when mum relays these emotionally charged stories. Seriously, at my age it still gets to me. I also sent her chocolates but she harped on about the excessive packaging misleading us to think there's more than there was in the box "only 12" she said. Ho humm, poor mum! At least i tried.
Guess i better get up, try live a bit, have a cuppa, feed the birds. Hope its ok to post like this.
Thanks for reading 🌹
just wondering how ya going? Family away, more time alone. And ya dad convalescing with you - hows that going? You make a lot of sense. I really like your posts, that your so real and shared faith, never give up like i have will you.
Still laying in bed here, where its warm, contemplating the benefits of eating & drinking if any. But about to shake a leg, i think.
Did ring my mum last night for her birthday. She has so much & still complains. Her sister still talks to her, my brother & his wife brang a big meal over last night, my sister & i mailed gifts & her hubby, dad, rang the youngest brothers to "get their butts over there & visit her. I don't have any of that. Mum didn't ring me the first time last birthday, and no apology. Last night She asked me if the dog got her parcel (the schmockos) but my avoiding the topic had her laughing down the phone at me "you're jealous of the dog!" On that note i politely signed off for the night saying i was glad she's had a good day. I was glad she seemed to like my gift at least, a pink hand knitted bed jacket, she said its identical to the one her aunty M.... made her when she was pregnant with me, 58yrs ago (wow).. She thinks her aunty is watching after me, guiding me etc, this great aunt i can barely remember, apparently really liked me as a small child, my big smile, and called me 'sunshine' Or so mum says.
Don't understand it but rather than be happy i find it gutwrenching when mum relays these emotionally charged stories. Seriously, at my age it still gets to me. I also sent her chocolates but she harped on about the excessive packaging misleading us to think there's more than there was in the box "only 12" she said. Ho humm, poor mum! At least i tried.
Guess i better get up, try live a bit, have a cuppa, feed the birds. Hope its ok to post like this.
Thanks for reading 🌹
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Former-Member
I would call that a success with your mum .... she obviously doesn't have the same heart / character as you, so I think you do really well with someone who is not exactly a kindred spirit .... honoured yourself by calling her, even though it was unlikely to be uplifting for you .... sounds like it was okay though ....
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I am one of those people who is / was a kindred spirit with my parents .... but I know plenty of people who are not. I wasn't ever close with my sister though. She has had some sort of vague intellectual disability from illness in infancy, and my brother is "super-bright" and "alternative", so I used to fit myself into his life full of "alternative" people (really nice, but live outside convention) until I decided I wanted to live within convention .... we get on well but can no longer align our lives or lifestyles ....
Having lost my Mum, and my Dad based hours away in the country, I have had more correspondence that real-time with all of them.
What I have found watching others, and in part from my own experience, is that you can build a friendship family around yourself ... and for some people that is a lot closer in kindred than their "real" family ever were. I had to do that to a large extent, having gone to boarding school at 12 years old, then on to the big smoke at 17 ....
I'm having another pyjama day. My kids are due home tomorrow, so this is the last chance I get for a while .... WH will find reason to stay interstate a while longer, which is for the best for now ... and I'm sulking a little bit too .... my painting wasn't accepted into the gallery exhibition as I had hoped.
Family and friends are already saying that my painting was much better than others that were accepted, but that's the way it goes .... the judges have their own ideas, and that's what they are the judges for .... to make decisions over the hundreds of entries they receive. It must be very difficult to decide what stays and what goes.
Still, it was on my to-do list to give it a go, so ..... ✅ been there, done that now .... 🌈 get myself somewhere over the rainbow and on to the next project .... but today I'm going to sulk in bed for a while.
I have been morphing my clean-out-the-fridge soup for the last two days, keeping it hot in the stock-pot the whole time .... it's been served vegetarian with bread, had meat added to the serving bowls before the veg soup was added in, had tomato soup and corn additions to make it mor of a minestrone (already had lentils and rice in there), and now .... ta-dahhhh ..... it's getting blitzed with Creme Fraiche to make a cream-of-clean-out-the-fridge-soup ...... 😊
I enjoy your company too btw. You have kept getting up and getting on .... you've got a helavalot of fortitude there @Former-Member. Keep sharing it around .... bloom where you're planted ... as you are ... whether you feel it or not ....
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Re: Sleeping too much
Thanks faith & hope, you're a blessing.
Sorry about your painting & WH not coming home. Two big blows at once 😢. Wish i could hug you 💕
Glad you're taking time for you, licking the wounds a bit so they heal quicker. Its ok. Good job with the soup too, & the fridge.
And thanks for the "FRIEND FAMILY" perspective. I like that. 👪👫👬👫👭
Now and then i like to check my understanding of words. You prompted me to check FORTITUDE: [fawr-ti-tood, -tyood], noun, "Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously." Never quite saw myself that way, especially given how pivotal people treat me, so thanks, guess its true most days (even, as you say, when we don't feel it). Thank you. You're much the same you know☺. Never alone 🍇
Right this moment I'm also enjoying the Yellow Rosella & doves in my bird feeder. They must be hungry in this cold overcast weather of late. Hope i see Tawney again tonight, & Possum.
Just checked the mail, the neighbours bouncing pup always races to great me for a pat. So cute 🙂 God finds ways to reach us.
Another big hug 💒💕
Sorry about your painting & WH not coming home. Two big blows at once 😢. Wish i could hug you 💕
Glad you're taking time for you, licking the wounds a bit so they heal quicker. Its ok. Good job with the soup too, & the fridge.
And thanks for the "FRIEND FAMILY" perspective. I like that. 👪👫👬👫👭
Now and then i like to check my understanding of words. You prompted me to check FORTITUDE: [fawr-ti-tood, -tyood], noun, "Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously." Never quite saw myself that way, especially given how pivotal people treat me, so thanks, guess its true most days (even, as you say, when we don't feel it). Thank you. You're much the same you know☺. Never alone 🍇
Right this moment I'm also enjoying the Yellow Rosella & doves in my bird feeder. They must be hungry in this cold overcast weather of late. Hope i see Tawney again tonight, & Possum.
Just checked the mail, the neighbours bouncing pup always races to great me for a pat. So cute 🙂 God finds ways to reach us.
Another big hug 💒💕
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Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope
i tried to reply a while ago to your posts with 3% battery left but was too slow and lost it, that will teach me.
Anyway I wanted to say @Former-Member that I feel for you with your mum and family. It must be hard. I live under my mums shadow a fair bit but she has mostly been kind to me. I'm just beginning to understand all the family dynamics. I'm glad you have taken the high road though. Good for you. It sounds just beautiful where you live. I'm glad you live somewhere which helps nourish your soul. 😊💜🌲🌿🕊🐾🌾
@Faith-and-Hope Sorry to hear about your painting, it must be disappointing. I'm glad you've had time to recover a bit from your hectic time but I guess their is that bit of trepidation about all returning and walking back into the fire. Thinking of you and wishing you the best too😊💜
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Thanks @Former-Member
The kids coming home is something of a joy. It's school holidays, so all the mayhem that you are familiar with too is absent, and they actually start to think about putting their rooms into some sort of order ....
WH will stay over east longer, and extend it further if he finds reason to .... not because he doesn't want to be with us, and he would protest that notion wildly, it's just that his regimen and mindset are so incompatible with a family life he really needs to be on his own with it .... but he can't see that .... he just gets frustrated that the world doesn't revolve around his mindset and regimen .... and that translates to not being cared for in his wayward thinking ....
The fire comes home when he does, and another one starts up with the school term .... thank God it's our last year of school ...
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Re: Sleeping too much
HI CYBER FRIEND FAMILY💕
You provide me much company & reconnecting with who i am (insight). After my last meltdown, couple of weeks back, i was almost too embarrassed to keep posting, from fear I'd pushed some of you away or be judged, but you're still talking - thank you. I hope you're still here if another wave comes (or should i say when, reality).
So glad to report the suicidal thoughts are much less intrusive. But i have been REALLY taking it easy. Also, I Think maybe doubling my antidepressant (4wks back) is finally kicking in. Just not so upset about things.
Still not DOING much yet but not beating myself up so much about that, oh, and crying less. This is good. Might get brave though & stretch myself, just a little more, rebuild some stamina (strength)
Have this big day in Brisbane for the sons grad. Don't want to get the faints there, or be in agony with the back. Just finding the limits there & strategies, what I can handle, what analgesia to use etc. Tricky. Wondering if i should get some of that 'rescue remedy' in case of stress. Barbituates have a delayed major depressive affect on me.
Really overcast, cold, & still here today. only 9° No rain forecast but feel like it.
Hi @Faith-and-Hope, is your day ok? Where did all your family go off lately? I know WH is over east & took one baby dragon with him. Only ask cause my kids only ever went away on school camps. // How's your dad? Is he mobile? able to self-care? My dad has a physio visit once a week to maintain mobility, but he is 82yo & has a dva hold card.
@Former-Member, hope today is more gentle with you? Its ok to just live for you you know, there's a season for everything. Winter is definitely my hibernating time. So glad these forums fit in with that. Only started here in March, had a major misunderstanding on another thread, with people who still ignore me, but I've almost forgotten who they are & held onto the handful of those with time for me. // The other thing i struggle with is feeling the heaviness for other people's shared distress, depending on the way they share it. You don't do that to me because you keep trying to hold your own, and still give when you can. Still getting to know you but you have a playful streak there too. Hang in there. You know, we don't have to understand to get through it. Just keep putting hand to task, one day at a time, and before you know it, spring will be here. I find i join nature with its surge of energy to live again in spring. I'd like to know more about you, what people are in your life, or have been & what hobbies & work you do. Started to write details down for when i forget who's who. It happens 😕 Take care now 💕
@decadion, what are you up to? Hope i didn't offend you the other day describing my ups & downs, foot in mouth, falling on my face etc. Was trying to be funny. I miss you 💕
@BlueBay, you ok? Go gently with your heart.
@Kurra, & @Appleblossom - how do you get back into your music after a major depressive episode or grief? I'd love to get them back into my life.
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You provide me much company & reconnecting with who i am (insight). After my last meltdown, couple of weeks back, i was almost too embarrassed to keep posting, from fear I'd pushed some of you away or be judged, but you're still talking - thank you. I hope you're still here if another wave comes (or should i say when, reality).
So glad to report the suicidal thoughts are much less intrusive. But i have been REALLY taking it easy. Also, I Think maybe doubling my antidepressant (4wks back) is finally kicking in. Just not so upset about things.
Still not DOING much yet but not beating myself up so much about that, oh, and crying less. This is good. Might get brave though & stretch myself, just a little more, rebuild some stamina (strength)
Have this big day in Brisbane for the sons grad. Don't want to get the faints there, or be in agony with the back. Just finding the limits there & strategies, what I can handle, what analgesia to use etc. Tricky. Wondering if i should get some of that 'rescue remedy' in case of stress. Barbituates have a delayed major depressive affect on me.
Really overcast, cold, & still here today. only 9° No rain forecast but feel like it.
Hi @Faith-and-Hope, is your day ok? Where did all your family go off lately? I know WH is over east & took one baby dragon with him. Only ask cause my kids only ever went away on school camps. // How's your dad? Is he mobile? able to self-care? My dad has a physio visit once a week to maintain mobility, but he is 82yo & has a dva hold card.
@Former-Member, hope today is more gentle with you? Its ok to just live for you you know, there's a season for everything. Winter is definitely my hibernating time. So glad these forums fit in with that. Only started here in March, had a major misunderstanding on another thread, with people who still ignore me, but I've almost forgotten who they are & held onto the handful of those with time for me. // The other thing i struggle with is feeling the heaviness for other people's shared distress, depending on the way they share it. You don't do that to me because you keep trying to hold your own, and still give when you can. Still getting to know you but you have a playful streak there too. Hang in there. You know, we don't have to understand to get through it. Just keep putting hand to task, one day at a time, and before you know it, spring will be here. I find i join nature with its surge of energy to live again in spring. I'd like to know more about you, what people are in your life, or have been & what hobbies & work you do. Started to write details down for when i forget who's who. It happens 😕 Take care now 💕
@decadion, what are you up to? Hope i didn't offend you the other day describing my ups & downs, foot in mouth, falling on my face etc. Was trying to be funny. I miss you 💕
@BlueBay, you ok? Go gently with your heart.
@Kurra, & @Appleblossom - how do you get back into your music after a major depressive episode or grief? I'd love to get them back into my life.
🌷🌹🌷💕
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Hi @Former-Member
My Dad is just younger than yours. He is mobile on crutches and can manage his self care, which is great, but he is feeling so weak and tired that that is all he can manage for now.
D1 and D3 joined the boys over east for the week, now all three kids are back ... just dashing out to pick them up from the airport ...
My Dad is just younger than yours. He is mobile on crutches and can manage his self care, which is great, but he is feeling so weak and tired that that is all he can manage for now.
D1 and D3 joined the boys over east for the week, now all three kids are back ... just dashing out to pick them up from the airport ...
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Unknown userMember
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Guess the long general anesthetic knocks us around a bit. Found out recently GA can trigger depression episodes. That's on top of the physical pain & limitations. But its common these days - knees & hips & they recover much quicker than they use to.
Enjoy your baby dragons, hope they're happy.
What you planning to feed them tonight?
Enjoy your baby dragons, hope they're happy.
What you planning to feed them tonight?
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Part of the faster recovery is barrelling straight into physio .... nurses in he hospital were saying it makes a massive difference, to the point where they've got the patients standing the same day they have come out of surgery, and walking with a frame the next .... with two physio sessions a day moving forward till they leave hospital ... it's pretty intense ...
What is baby dragon fodder tonight ?? Haven't got a clue at this stage .... it takes a committee meeting to decide what everyone wants to eat .... 😆
And the fridge is still clean cos it's empty !!!
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Unknown userMember
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🏥Its amazing how quickly they get post op patients up & going now - and it works. Progress. Prayers for your dad �⛪. // Sounds like 🍔takeaway, or eating Out tonight at your house🍴whatever works!
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