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@Former-Member

I am impressed that you know the date of the anniversary and even programmmed the alarm to send support.

I know only one lady who kept a prayer list. She did become a good friend, and I am praying for her as she is starting to dement. She is very cheerful about it as I think she is regressing to a childish state and will be happy to join her husband.

Nobody has ever done that for me. My world is too fragmented. City life. So there are the benefits of being known in small communities too.

Part of the reason I go back to one church is that is the only way I can maintain long term relationships as there are the same people there ... they havent all moved on ... for many people there are too many anonymous faces.

My story is just too long to tell those who dont know.

On a grief level it has been a huge thing to meet others in a similar position .. esp you and @Decadian

I call it "The Suburban Wilderness @Appleblossom

I walk up to the shops most days - I did today - rainy - not many people about -

But the grief levels - yes we can be lost out here in the suburbs - we can go to the shops on rainy days - and we need not tell anyone - they already know the weather

On fine days people sit outside the coffee shop with their dogs - I know why they are there - they wanna chat - and they do - and you can talk about their dogs - of course - that's why they are there

In these 9 units there are only 2 people who have been here longer than me - 12.5 years - other people move in and out - and I do chat with people here - but the change in population goes on and on - people don't stay for long

But I am not Eleanor Rigby - I do not wear a face that I keep in a jar by the door - but I know what both of you mean - in a small town - and I grew up on the police station in a semi-rural area - everyone knew us and we knew all their business - and in the surburbs - we are alone - isolated by faces that often seem not at all switched on - until I smile at them - can't help my face - had lots of good chats waiting to vote

Both have their pros and cons - ouch - pardon that pun - but too good to move

Decadian - [thinking of both of you]

@Faith-and-Hope

LOve!!

Love that photo!!I've been trying the no talking to husband to try and get a little cat........It hasnt worked yet

@Former-Member

Im so pleased for your son and partner!! Life without study must be weird for him !!

My son came home tonight and commented that he's moving in with his friends again.....This week, I'm getting my carers gift from Government and I've spent it in my head about 10 times and........I knowit will just go on the car.......LOL

I really hope to be online uring the day tomorrow

Peace and yummy hot chocolate and herbal tea to all

PP and Arlo the dog....

Dear @Former-Member

How are you? No, I'm not anxious about my son moving out. but.....I'm anxious that he will not follow up on his no smoking green......I have to give that up, I know.........

I have a mother who has BPD and narcassism......she has decided that it was actually her who is his mother not me......that took me years to get my head around that one.......but when he came home to my husband and me at beginning of March.....we both are Mum and son now......it's time for him to live in the big scary world. He has some great friends ......but he's like the main inflence.... a few of them are also giving up the green..........

His friends well, some of them...especially 2 are good. I actually asked one of their fathers to spend a bit of time with my son last year........He has one friend who's experiences are so so sad.......I think my son will watch over him.....there's one and his other friends deeply into drugs.........but I've been told that when he tries to get support from his parents, they just yell at him........

When my oldest son flew over the other side of Australia to live with my brother........that was so awful......I never thought I'de recover from that......but I did..........

How are you going?