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Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

TheVorticonSenior Contributor

Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

I seem to struggle a lot with feelings of 'liking' and 'caring about' in certain relationships.

For example, I might like someone and want to talk to them, but that's bad because I shouldn't want that, so I have to police myself to not talk to them which makes me upset, which is even more reason to be ashamed by the intensity of the feeling which I shouldn't even have in the first place.

Does anyone else understand what I mean?

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MaggieSenior Contributor

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@TheVorticon Just Dropping off some 💚💚💚💚 You are a real person.

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor

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I dunno if I am @Maggie. Not where it counts.

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MaggieSenior Contributor

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I’m sorry @TheVorticon . I’m stuck for words, as I think I might understand your thoughts/feelings, from my own experiences.

I found this earlier today, but didn’t post it, as I don’t want to be over powering or intrusive. So I’m leaving it now, hoping you know you matter/count. There’s a rainbow in the umbrella.

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor

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Thanks @Maggie, I really appreciate the image and for replying even though you don't have words to say. It's not overpowering or intrusive and it helped me get a little bit of the "stuck in these thoughts" out.
My partner gave me a short list of why I'm a real person to them which is helpful too.

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jamesle2015Senior Contributor

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@Appleblossom I will be ok....I will be resting at home but I won't be bedridden 🙂

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CheerBearSenior Contributor

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Just checking in to see how you've been going, if you'd like to share @TheVorticon. Thinking of you

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MaggieSenior Contributor

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Thinking of you also @TheVorticon

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TheVorticonSenior Contributor

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Hi @CheerBear and @Maggie. Thanks for your messages. I dunno how I'm doing really. If I answered a few hours ago it would be one thing, if I answered now it would be another. It's feeling safer to stay quiet.

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CheerBearSenior Contributor

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Full respect for it feeling safer to stay quiet @TheVorticon. If and when you feel like sharing/can share, we're listening.

I hope the rest of the day has some OK about it for you.

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jamesle2015Senior Contributor

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@Appleblossom @TheVorticon @Bunniekins I cancelled the surgery ....after talking to private health insurance tonight....they said they contacted the private health and I wasn't covered so I am going to wait until the waiting period is over in a few months ...then I will make another appointment

I hope the hospital contacts the specialist to cancel - I have to call the hospital tomorrow - Saturday - to confirm that they did

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