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Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

TheVorticonSenior Contributor07 July 2019, 8:03 am AEST

Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

I seem to struggle a lot with feelings of 'liking' and 'caring about' in certain relationships.

For example, I might like someone and want to talk to them, but that's bad because I shouldn't want that, so I have to police myself to not talk to them which makes me upset, which is even more reason to be ashamed by the intensity of the feeling which I shouldn't even have in the first place.

Does anyone else understand what I mean?

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jamesle2015Senior Contributor01 July 2020, 9:04 pm AEST

Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

Not sure if I can make progress..

it feels like she wants to keep talking to use up the appointment time

but she didn't give me any work to do

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 11:04 pm AEST

Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

@jamesle2015

I have broadband issues too. sigh!

I am not sure why they dont give homework or some positive intervention. They might not feel it is the best approach, but hearing you that it is not optimal.

I belive they should devise a system of item numbers to justify the fees, beyond "initial" and "subsequent" consultation.

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jamesle2015Senior Contributor05 July 2020, 4:04 pm AEST

Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

@Appleblossom @TheVorticon the NBN did something so hopefully the connection will be good from now on....

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jamesle2015Senior Contributor14 July 2020, 8:49 pm AEST

Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame

@TheVorticon @Appleblossom I had to call my ISP back today....connection dropped out a couple of times..they had a look at the connections and they have escalated to NBN...again...

hope they can fix it this time

it's been good for the last couple of weeks

I went to see the specialist and he gave me a script I have to take the meds for 5 days and then in a couple of weeks he will call me

But he said I will probably need an operation which is bad news ...

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