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Vee-Contributor02 Apr 2019, 9:08 am AEDT

Asking for help

Hello, new here. Trying to keep it short and not an essay so..

New mum, four month old boy. No support or family. Hubby moved interstate soon after son was born due to job. I recently moved to be with him. We are all alone here. New city never been here so it’s all new and lonely.

Getting worse for the past week I think of no longer wanting to live but I know I’m my son’s whole world. I will keep living, just hate the thoughts.

Not happy at all and dont even know why, can’t pin point a specific reason. Faking it and keeping it all to myself not even hubby knows anything. I cry days and nights. Some days are ok some are really bad. Seems to alternate every second day at the moment. Some days the first half is fine then second half is crap.

Too scared to ask for help or see a GP or health nurse which is what I know people will suggest. Any tips or how to overcome this.

Will most likely continue going on living unhappily and feeling very down and hope for the best that this will disappear. Is that possible?

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TeejSenior Contributor05 Apr 2019, 9:09 pm AEDT

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Well done @Vee- !

one little step at a time. 💜🤗

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CheerBearSenior Contributor05 Apr 2019, 9:18 pm AEDT

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Awesome to hear you did that today @Vee- 🙂 It can a while for things to change (sometimes change happens quickly too though). Speaking with PANDA today is a great start.

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Vee-Contributor05 Apr 2019, 10:00 pm AEDT

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But I want a quick fix not little steps and take a while 😕 😕

I see some threads that are still going 2-3 years later.... not what I want.

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TeejSenior Contributor05 Apr 2019, 10:34 pm AEDT

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Some people’s mental health is complex @Vee- and takes a long time. I’ve known others that have been able to recover quicker. Sometimes things fall into place fairly quickly and sometimes not so much.

You deserve to enjoy your life with your baby. In the end it doesn’t really matter how long it takes as long as you have each other. If I ask my children, that they would just rather have me around than not, even when I’m not great. My kids are grown up now and can talk about it. I think your son would love to have these conversations when he is older too. It’s crappy going through it and especially as a new mum but I think there is hope that you can find a way through where it is much different for you and you enjoy your life without faking it.

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Unknown userMember12 Apr 2019, 3:24 pm AEST

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Hi all,

Just to follow up in here - we have chatted with PANDA and are resolving a few tech issues. There were some staffing movements which meant the capcity to respond to posts was limited. Once tech is resolved they will be back to being able to respond when tagged (won't always be immediate but they will come through!)

So wonderful to see that you connected with the @Former-Member helpline @Vee-

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Vee-Contributor12 Apr 2019, 5:50 pm AEST

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Hello everyone @CheerBear @Former-Member @Teej @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51

I just wanted to thank you all for pushing me to get help and recommending me PANDA which I never knew about. It’s been a week since the phone call with them and as unbelievable as it is I’m all better and feeling back to my normal self after the call. I’m really hoping it stays like this and doesn’t come back and I can stay this happy. I can’t believe a week ago I was saying that a week from then nothing would’ve changed. It’s scary though because that means I could go back to being miserable as fast as a week from now too. I will still go to the GP to let them know and to help me remain in this state but thought I’d share with you my update and the good news. I can’t thank you enough because who knows how I’d be right now if I never posted to this forum. Thank you thank you 😊

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CheerBearSenior Contributor12 Apr 2019, 6:16 pm AEST

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That is awesome @Vee- and thank you for sharing! It's great to hear you're going to keep on to it too. When times get tough something that helps me is to remember that it can (and does) change and pass. What you've experienced in the last week is a great example of that 😊

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor12 Apr 2019, 6:31 pm AEST

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Thanks so much for letting us know @Vee- , and you know we are here to walk along with you any time you feel you need that support.

😊🌷

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Shaz51Senior Contributor12 Apr 2019, 7:22 pm AEST

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That is awesome @Vee- , keep sharing and keeping in touch my friend

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SANE-AdminAdministrator16 Apr 2019, 2:45 pm AEST

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@Vee- it is so great to hear such a postive experience. How great are forum friends? Having peers who can help encourgae and support you to connect to help is just so powerful. Well done for connecitng and reaching out!

Also to all in this thread as an update, in following up with PANDA, as @Teej mentioned there are two accounts which isn't necessary. and the second one was set up as a one off for an event. To confirm, moving forward, PANDA's account is actually the @PANDA account and PANDA_2 was closed to avoid anymore confusion. If you do see a post or want to refer PANDA to a member feel free to tag them via @PANDA and they will endevour to post replies within buisness hours! 👍🏼

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