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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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CarlachrisSenior Contributor
I keep making little corners for myself but he invades them due to hypervigilence and jealousy. Boredom and loneliness. I am able to amuse myself painting or knitting or sketching or playing guitar and sculpting. He needs an audience but craves to be left alone. Like a spoilt teen. Some days I just give up. But then others somehow I find a strength to say "NO....you are pushing the bounardies of existence too far." Im not a phsychiatrist go find one your demanding too much of my life with your selfishness.
maybe I will try that one tomorrow. Its about time. Not engage with him but push the MI back a bit.
maybe???
hugs.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hugs @Carlachris ❤️
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ScooSenior Contributor
@Carlachris
You have some wonderful hobbies. I hope they bring some joy and respite to your days. I'm not creative or artistic but I can play guitar and I like to sing.
Hello to those I have not met before @LizzieLou @Emelia8 and anyone else not tagged.
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SJT63Senior Contributor
@HoneyOne
you might like this thread, it's about staying so you won't get told you should leave x
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Unknown userMember
Hello @HoneyOne 👋
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HoneyOneSenior Contributor
Thank you @Former-Member !!
When you put it that way...
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Unknown userMember
How are you and yours going @HoneyOne @SJT63
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SJT63Senior Contributor
@Former-Member still rocky but improving. Dr put him on a new mood stabiliser 3 weeks ago and we've seen a small improvement. Yesterday she upped the dose a little. While we are still having the events as often through the day they are not as violent and not as long lasting. He has finally stopped waking me up 2 or 3 times a night to share his latest grievance. A huge blessing when I have to go to work every morning.
A different kind of problem has reared it's ugly head over the last two weeks - that of manic hypersexuality - something I'm emailing him about because he won't talk to me, but his behaviour in that regard is not something I should have to come to terms with.
I have found these forums to be a great help in two ways. They keep me connected with people who know how I feel without having to justify myself, and there are always those doing it much tougher who I can, in turn, encourage.
One day at a time. Thanks for your message xoxo
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SilverfoxContributor
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SilverfoxContributor
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