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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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@Mrsjones
Alcohol in the mix is a concern and I can understand why you would be worried. Some blokes thrive on being stay at home dads, I know however Mr Darcy saw his inability to hold a job more as a failure.
I do not have any experience at all in relation to alcohol or to the care of children and am hoping that someone else might be able to be of help to you.
Plugging along here. Mr D not feeling so well, don't know if it is moving/Christmas/whatever stress or pain but there does appear to be an element of not having anything meaningful to do (but does not seem to articulate what he would find meaningful.
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MrsjonesSenior Contributor
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Hey @Mrsjones
No need to apologize, that is exactly what the forum is here for.
Being to air our thoughts, feelings and fears is so very important. Other forumites can tell us how they have coped, sometimes just articulating the problem helps us think of possible solutions.
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Happy Christmas, it can be a tough time for our significant others, hope you do find some joy today.
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@Scoo @Bobkat
There are a few of us that support our significant others with MI. If you feel comfortable, please feel free to contribute to this discussion thread or to ask any questions, we are here to help and support each other.
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ScooSenior Contributor
Thankyou @Former-Member I am glad to have found this online support forum. At the moment I feel like I am recovering from supporting my husband through Christmas (I have a headache and feel exhausted). I learn something each Christmas about how to support him better next Christmas. I have hope that maybe there will come a time when he can enjoy Christmas and not feel tormented by anxiety and depression. I feel a bit guilty and emotional talking about him in this forum but a close friend encouraged it said that it would be good self care for me. I hope I will also be able to provide support to others.
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Unknown userMember
Welcome @Scoo good to have you here. 😀
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The beauty of the forum @Scoo is that it is anonymous and as such is a great place to talk honestly about those feelings especially the difficult or negative ones which we all experience.
Am hearing you re: anxiety and depression, my Mr Darcy was crying on Christmas Eve.
Self care so important, learning how to partner with rather than carry the weight of our significant others mental health whilst simultaneously managing our own mental health so we don't fall in a heap is difficult to learn.
I will tag you in a self care discussion thread where you might find a tip or two that ressonate with how you are traveling at present.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Hi @Scoo and welcome.
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MrsjonesSenior Contributor
Welcome @Scoo
Youll find this thread and many other extremely useful, I know I have.
Christmas was a real struggle for me too, one of the hardest times yet. We must stick together.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Mrs Jones
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