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Hi @BlueBay

This is fabulous news - you can take life more easily and spend this time sorting yourself out and catching up with all the things that are confusing you so badly and get things straight in your mind

Don't worry about yourself - just look after yourself - you have been waiting such a long time for this

All the best - and we will see you again when you are feeling much better

Decadian

I am so glad you are there @BlueBay and that you have been able to talk to the nurse about how terrible you have been feeling - what a night mare you have been through

I hope they can give you something for that headache - but they will be able to help you sort your life out now - and maybe treat those headaches

Thanks for letting us know

Decadian

Hey @BlueBay

You're in hospital at last and you are safe - you can tell the doctors and nurses anything you need to

I know you have a bad headache - one of the worst - I know when I get a headache like that I am not to keen on talking about stuff either - so I hope you can settle down and let people know what's really going on so they can help you

Are they looking after you there? Have you got a safe place to sit and think privately - I don't know where you are but I am sure that they have had people before who have had trouble talking about whatever it is that is bothering you

So - I would suggest - this is what I would do - is to find a nurse who seems to be understanding and then sit down with her and tell her exactly how you are feeling - they can't tell unless you do

You have so much stuff happening in your life - here's an idea

Ask for some paper and a box of textas and write down all the stuff you have had happening

There's your work problems

Financial problems

MIL problems

Husband not understanding

Anger with your mother that is BAD - and resentment that your father is under her control

Talk about how angry you are - that anger is under the depression

You don't have to worry about what they think about you - you have no control over that - but they need to know what's really on your mind - and they won't remember this is the long run - and it's not what you say to them - it's what you hear yourself saying

Probably you need some time to settle in and they will understand that - when I have had an admission I have always felt rather awkward - and yes

You don't know the other guests there - but you soon will - do you have a room to yourself or are you sharing with 4 other people - the people in your room will be the first people you can talk to

So take it easy and rest - you have so much sorting out to do - I am with you in spirit and I will be thinking of you

Decadian

Such a beautiful heartfelt response from @Decadian - it moved me. And yes, what @Faith-and-Hope said - hormonal/bodily inbalances are involved and this will awaken from the subconscious past hurts/trauma. Talking about it always helps. Such wonderful news regarding what the nurse stated - you can have hormone tests;, hopefully they will be more reliable for peri-menopause (which can be tricky as previously explained as treatment is usually based on symptoms and blood tests usually only indicate menopause). But it's a start. Did you feel the nurse/medical staff had some understanding of peri-menopause?

Once the imbalance is treated and your hormones level out, and your health issues settle - then you will be strong enough to work through the other psychological/emotional issues. Otherwise it can just be too overwhelming. That is what I found when I went through what you are going through. I would talk everything through only to wake up and the depression/anxiety overwhelm me once again (before I went on HRT/thyroid treatment).

Exercising positive thinking was helpful and vital at that time for survival - but in my case I also needed hormone replacement and lots of sleep/rest to gain back some equilibrium. Take this opportunity to "get as much rest as you can". It will help the anxiety/depression no end - as will "letting go of your worries". You don't need to physically run away - you need to shut out life's woes for now and let your mind rest, give it a break. Take this opportunity to do this, and this will also give your body and mind chemistry a chance to heal and level out.

"Que sera sera, whatever will be will be - let it all go for now.

I was also on anti-ds for awhile (not now - just hrt). I remember crying every day before treated - I couldn't stop and it went on and on. I was a mess and my husband was at a loss of what to do. It was horrible.

Support from caring understanding others was vital in this dark time - keep reaching out. I so empathise with your suffering - if I could take it away I would.

And yes it takes one step at a time my friend - it won't happen overnight. But healing will happen. Hold onto hope no matter how hard - it won't let you down in the end. I hope the headache eases for you soon once you settle more. Thinking of you. Much love x

Such a beautiful heartfelt response from @Decadian - it moved me. And yes, what @Faith-and-Hope said - hormonal/bodily inbalances are involved and this will awaken from the subconscious past hurts/trauma. Talking about it always helps. Such wonderful news regarding what the nurse stated - you can have hormone tests;, hopefully they will be more reliable for peri-menopause (which can be tricky as previously explained as treatment is usually based on symptoms and blood tests usually only indicate menopause). But it's a start. Did you feel the nurse/medical staff had some understanding of peri-menopause?

Once the imbalance is treated and your hormones level out, and your health issues settle - then you will be strong enough to work through the other psychological/emotional issues. Otherwise it can just be too overwhelming. That is what I found when I went through what you are going through. I would talk everything through only to wake up and the depression/anxiety overwhelm me once again (before I went on HRT/thyroid treatment).

Exercising positive thinking was helpful and vital at that time for survival - but in my case I also needed hormone replacement and lots of sleep/rest to gain back some equilibrium. Take this opportunity to "get as much rest as you can". It will help the anxiety/depression no end - as will "letting go of your worries". You don't need to physically run away - you need to shut out life's woes for now and let your mind rest, give it a break. Take this opportunity to do this, and this will also give your body and mind chemistry a chance to heal and level out.

"Que sera sera, whatever will be will be - let it all go for now.

I was also on anti-ds for awhile (not now - just hrt). I remember crying every day before treated - I couldn't stop and it went on and on. I was a mess and my husband was at a loss of what to do. It was horrible.

Support from caring understanding others was vital in this dark time - keep reaching out. I so empathise with your suffering - if I could take it away I would.

And yes it takes one step at a time my friend - it won't happen overnight. But healing will happen. Hold onto hope no matter how hard - it won't let you down in the end. I hope the headache eases for you soon once you settle more. Thinking of you. Much love x

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