A question for the ladies

Hugs @outlander. It's super hard when you don't feel comfortable talking or asking questions.

I get pain kind of everywhere :face_with_rolling_eyes: Very sharp and specific mid cycle/ovulation pains, very crampy and achey pains in my belly and back when I have my period. Not sure about fake ovulation, sorry. Sounds super wonky 😏

That third question of yours is one I have feared before with surgery so I get it. It's one I found the joys of last year when I had my last operation which was on my lower back and around my tailbone. I had to tell them as I figured they would find out anyway 😉. They were helpful and reassuring and made it as not awkward as it could be but it did make me feel yuck to think of and have to allow help with. Maybe the post-op pain relief they might give you will help in a couple of ways if it happens.

🤞 it helps @outlander. I'm not hugely lucky when it comes to anything med related but there are pros and cons to weigh up and having options is good.

I kind of had to tell others outlander as having the kids means I need help when it comes to anything surgery related, which there's been a fair bit of for me (not all related to this but all the same kind of thing). Now I don't care but when I was younger I cared a bit/a lot and kept a lot to myself. My only suggestion would be to remember this is your body and your life and it really isn't anyone else's business. It's kind of empowering I find, to be able to make choices that you don't need to justify to anyone, and to choose what you want, and who and what you share your stuff with. "None of your business" and "just because" are pretty great words (though they can take some practice to say) 😉😘

I think when you've had experiences of things not being in your control, of things being done to you not with you, of having choices taken etc., then anything you want to and can do to get that back is important @outlander. That's my experience with this stuff but it's taken lots of time and practice to see it that way. I also realise I could be misinterpreting what you meant above by experience and not your choice too. Sorry if that's the case.

I really appreciate you too @outlander, lots and lots 😘