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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
I don't see the point in living anymore. I can't.
I've called helplines but tonight it's just not helped.
I've spent way too much time in hospital over the years and nothings ever helped.
I just can't anymore
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
No you don't need to shut up or leave @The-red-centaur It is not acceptable behaviour and I remember how scared it made you - none of that is your fault - it is entirely his.
You have every right to feel safe wherever you are and you should not have to put up with people saying it is your fault - that is just plain wrong 
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hi @The-red-centaur @Zoe7
I can hear how hurt and invalidated you are feeling @The-red-centaur.
Was your case worker at the meeting with you ? Any mental health support ? Or was it just the boss of your accommodation and others from there ?
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Boundaries are so tricky to understand if they have been violated early on. I am hopeless with them. Before I understood their benefit I even tried to argue with the mods that they were a bad idea cos they put divisions between people ... I find it hard to try and clarify as people treat me as if I am stupid if I ask ... what seems to me .. a valid logical question.
Dont let them beat you @The-red-centaur
There is support for you here.
Take Care
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
@Zoe7 Is right, you have the right to feel safe ..... (and I have had a quick flick back here) you are right too ..... the mistreatment you were exposed to as a child will have affected your ability to deal with disrespect to your personal boundaries.
Please talk to your case worker about this ..... either to get involved in support of you, or if you feel that will cause you problems with having somewhere to live, help you with counselling over this new rough treatment you have received from the boss.
If he didn’t know your history, he may not have understood that your circumstances are not the norm, so your responses, and the support you are entitled to are not the norm either, and that might change the outcome for you.
Please try not to turn it inwards on yourself, although that has become a natural thing for you to do ..... please see it for what it is - someone misbehaving and others not understanding how hard it was for you to reach out for support.
Keep looking after you @The-red-centaur ....
We are walking along with you in this .....
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Let us know how it goes with your case manager tomorrow @The-red-centaur - Goodnight - hope you sleep well
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Good for you @The-red-centaur ....
And you’re welcome .... we are all here for each other .....
I hope it goes well for you tomorrow, and I look forward to hearing too ....
Goodnight.
Take care.
@Zoe7 @Appleblossom
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
That’s great to hear @The-red-centaur ..... good news.
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