Living with Ourselves

@Jacques

I will be back as someone famously sent...

As you know it takes me so very long to reply to each person as I like to put thought into it.

Your reply deserves that consideration always..

Will speak as soon as I can.

In meantime, enjoy the wonderful moments that you do share with your mum, partner and other child perhaps? The one who has chosen the wrong path at this time will be another conversation respecting your feelings.

Sophia1

hello @tonys

I have copied your piece of beautiful prose over here so that I can read it slowly as prose and poetry should be read to feel the energy in between the words.

Hello again @Jacques ,

How are you girlfriend and mother coping with the aggression and drug induced behaviour from the teenage daughter?

I hope that there is support on hand.

Helplines to ring?

Some options for rehabilitation.

Only talk about it if you feel up to it and safe to do so of course.,.

Sophia1

A smoke signal told me that you were looking for me

sending a smoke signal back

Sophia1

ps Toon town has been overtaken

noone home

@tonys

Hi @Sophia1 hugs my friend, you are always so kind and caring. my partner is really struggling with her daughters behaviour as she has been very physically violent to her mum. im doing all i can so support my partner and her daughter. it is a difficult situation. they do have Family services involved but they are about as useful as the proverbial on a bull. so not a great deal of help for her, the mental health system and drug support system is almost non existant in australia. sad really.

anyway i hope you have had a nice easter break.

OH @Jacques

I am so sorry to hear that.

It does not surprise me though so sad.

Most of the country needs a complete overhaul.

Is the daughter still living at home in regard to the violence?

As horrible as it sounds sometimes families end up needing to take out restraining orders until the matter settles or resolves itself.

No rehabilitation, recovery offered?

Or is daughter refusing?

Hard for you not being there as well.

Also how is the other daughter coping?

Several separate family incidents dreadful and Easter was awful.

I am dreading mothers day.

I did get out for a walk with exercise physiologist today for first time with her. She is lovely and has knowledge of post concussion as has studied areas.

Is like winning the lottery finding someone who understands what I have been going through and how impacted I have been.

I have mild brain injury.

Have my check up again next week.

How is your bike?

Sorry how was your easter?

im so sorry easter was so rough for you, hugs @Sophia1 . sounds very much like you had a terrible fall, wishing you a speedy recovery. the brain can be a very complicated thing. im worried with mum having so many falls she will hurt herself, she has not had one for a while touch wood.

no after her daughter hit her she ran away and has not been home for over a week, she is refusing to come home. so sad. despite the violence my partner wants her daughter to come home.

no not really any help offered, but i dont think her daughter would accept any help, she seems to be an angry young lady, teenage years are so rough.

her other daughter is very worried about her sister, she is scared of her but is worried about her hurting herself. and if she is safe.

yes it is difficult being so far away, i feel so guilty for not being there to support all 3 of them. i feel if i was there things would not go so far. maybe i would just be in the road. i don't know.

im so glad you have a good therapist. you have done so well of late for support, therapist, gardener.

I actually had an accident at home. I had spilt so much water everywhere on tiled floor and had not noticed. I was so worried about adult child at that time in hospital again involuntarily which breaks my heart..

@Jacques

I slipped on water and crashed onto the tiled floor. Nearly 15 months ago had plate to fix fracture, fixed torn rotator cuff and time healed torn tendons. Mild brain injury from concussion and still suffering with recurring post concussion. Have another review next week.

I was burnt out.

I understand in as much am able the pain and multitude of feelings your girlfriend is experiencing. People do self medicate with drugs and when struggling with their feelings are easy targets for dealers. She must be terrified of what she is feeling and probably hating herself. Drugs can also cause people to behave violently.

Is she missing or responding no by text or answering phone?

sister worried and afraid. Nobody expects this stuff yet is a part of today more and more.

I want to check with you that you feel okay talking about this on the forums and with me.

You are intelligent I know. Still can be vulnerable when upset. Also if you want to talk I will be guided by what you choose.
Others may jump in as has happened in the past.
Then different suggestions can overwhelm and or confuse.

So I prefer to be guided by you.

My adult child is missing again. I know how unbearable that is not getting responses weeks months on end

Giving you a huge hug Jacques. I am here for you with this.

Sophia1

Sorry @Jacques

Forgot to mention your concerns re mum

Does she use any walking aids?

Balance issues can be caused by so many things

not eating regularly

drinking enough water

hearing

eyesight

does mum have a good doctor

also if she has had a few falls does she have

a medical alert button to wear?

hi @Sophia1 gosh that must have been a real shock, yes water and tiles do not mix, the last fall mum had she slipped on wet tin and hit her head on the bin, she got a black eye and a few scratches and bruises, the doctors xrayed her face, neck and hip, she was very lucky, noting broken.

she does not have a medical alert unit, but i am home all the time and we check on each other throughout the day. she has type 2 diabeties, so i think that is where the ballance thing comes from. low or high blood sugar.

im so sorry to hear you have one son missing and one son in the MHU, it must be so distressing for you. gosh life can be and is so so hard.

im ok talking about all this, and i don't mind anyone reading what i write. so please don't worry too much about our discussions.

my partners daughter has called 3 times in 2 weeks. so she is at least in contact sometimes. yes, i hate drug dealers so much, they always prey on the vulnerable, im so glad my partner does not live in my town, it is number 1 in the state for drug use.

i do believe you are right, i think my partners daughter is self medicating with drugs and alcohol, im so worried someone will take advantage of her when she is under the influence. i know what men are like and what animals they can be. i really hope she can stay safe.

i really hope you can fully recover from your injuries. please be careful, you are an amazing person and friend.

hugs