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Living with Ourselves

Sophia1Senior Contributor

Living with Ourselves

hello @eudemonism @eth @outlander @Bunniekins @Mazarita @Silenus @NameUnknown @Grasshopper3 @patientpatient @soul @Former-Member @Determined @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Friendconnect @Teej @utopia @Queenie @Appleblossom @Zam @perseverer @Janna @Owlunar @Former-Member @Former-Member

First of all I wanted to let you know that I have conversed with all of you at some stage on both sides of the forum..

It was my intention to close two of my threads and change my name in the kindest way for all of you...

I commenced this process on the 12th March and today is the first day that I have access to actually post or respond to anyone....I was in the last couple of days able to register a new name and like some posts...

I am so sorry that my profile ended so abruptly that was definitely not my intention....

In fact if I had done it my way.. instead of thinking would be better to be guided through the process....I would have just written on one of my threads my reason for closing my account tagging you all in....then requested account to be closed and username put to bed so to speak

I have chosen to take this path in order to protect my family's sense of safety .. privacy...health..

Please let me reassure you that this has nothing to do with any members on here...

I have tagged each and everyone of you because you have given me support and invited me into a little of your worlds...priceless experiences...I have felt heard and valued on here....Thank you all so much..

Moving forward ...this is who I am now and hope to be able to converse on the forum living in the now not the past...therefore no mention of my previous username necessary...

If you do not know who I am...that is fine also...perhaps all of the above is not relevant for you..

take care

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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evening @Sophia1
I don't think its sad that you couldn't go, its very clear your struggling and sometimes its tiring and so draining to be around others even when we know we usually have a good time.
its hard not to compare ourselves with others, after all we are only human. everyone has their own experiences and with that comes their own way of coping. try not to be to hard on yourself, I know very much easier said then done.
sending big hugs and much love to you 💙💙💙💙

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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hello @outlander

thank you

I had cancelled several outings due to my own state of depression..

I did go to a lunch event for the "mental health group today"

there was a lady whom I have wanted to spend more time getting to know from other excursions and that was a blessing as she is so interesting to talk to..as well as wanting to keep in contact...fabulous for me as interests are the same..

ended up at husband's sport club...sadly heard more bad news...

friend with a certain condition wanting to go away together..I am more than happy.. interfere with sports????also to be fair husband involved with new house build...

so I need to be ???

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im glad that you managed to go to the lunch event today, it sounds like your making new friends too even better that she is good to talk with and have the same interests as well.

is your new house build still happening? do you think itd be possible for hubby to go away for a few days?
If he does perhaps you could do something nice for yourself like get your nails done or your hair done or something that might make you feel refreshed?

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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thank you @outlander

I am not into having nails done scenario..I just paint my own laugh..

husband is working very hard as well as learning that he needs to step back and let builders do their stuff...

I did manage to go to lunch with group not sure if I have already said this or not...state of mind...

Many changes are happening within carers field and this particular lady exchanged phone numbers.

I have already started a group meeting for lunches ongoing which is working very well.

A lovely lunch today ...She has exchanged phone nos and is keen to be involved with the group that I have already created..

So promising times ahead....

How simple....

at the same time how ridiculous that there is not more of this?????

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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sometimes the simple things are the ones that are forgotten @Sophia1 kind of like it slips into the background.
I think its great that you've started a group, that is really great and also sounds like its taking off well too.

honestly im not into nails and things either, though im getting my hair redone this weekend. hasn't been done in so long and theres a weekend special on for haircuts so ive decided to go and get some of the dead ends and fly aways fixed up.

its hard to step back sometimes when we are so fiercely independent. I had to giggle at your hubby having to step back, im abit like that too. I just want to get in and help sometimes lol

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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sorry to confuse you @outlander @Maggie @Bunniekins @Adge

which is no small wonder considering my writing at the moment...

husband does not step back in any shape form or matter re build of new home ...on top of everything...one of a kind who is gifted in just about everything manually!! he practically built his last home...excelled in sport..rotary...now latest sport interest...

Myself... zilch interest in playing sport...hmm tried it once did not work...team membership at work yes...in private time...no...definite no...not happeing....

therein is the problem.....

yes he is doing some....?

letting go of all other is an issue..????

Compromise is the new word.. laugh..!!!!

at the same time I cannot gather the enthusiasm that I should have...

I cannot let go of my family member ...despite younger son tells me...not that younger son gains financially..he just sees the emotional debris,..

So?

Where am I now?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1 💙💕💚💜❤

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1 Oh Sophia1 I feel your pain. Wish I could make it go away or take on some of it for you. Love peaxxxx

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1 I couldn't let go either ....

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MaggieSenior Contributor

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@Sophia1 There are just no words sometimes......just big feels. 💜💕💜💕

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